We’ve written before about how we live a certain lifestyle and it’s not always easy meeting other people who are like minded. I mean you can’t just walk up to someone at church and be like “Hey, are you a kinky fucker, too?” Though that would be kind of funny, it would also be totally inappropriate in that situation. It’s not like people walk around wearing at T-shirt advertising their style of kink like they would their favorite sports team. Being kinky or living an alternative lifestyle, such as having an open Relationship or enjoying others together in your relationship isn’t something you can generally bring up in just any conversation.
So… How CAN you find other people who are into something not so mainstream? There are a few different ways to do this. Recently, cagedmonkey and I were introduced to a website called SwingTowns.com and it’s definitely a place where you can meet real, local people in your area for free, who are into kink and other fetish-type things. It seems like such a wonderful place for kinksters. If you are a Mistress or Master seeking a slave or vice versa, this is the place for you. Their Fetish community is full of open-minded singles, couples and groups. You’ll find men and women looking for erotic BDSM, bondage and fetish play (in addition to the submissive and Domme roles). Not only is it a site to meet other kinky fuckers, they also have a great blog with awesome information-filled articles. The articles cover so many different subjects and if you check it out you’ll notice some pretty popular bloggers who contribute. (Wink, wink) Now, there is always Fetlife, or collarspace, or even the BDSM reddits but one of the best ways is to just get out there and met people at your local munch.
Just today, I was asked how we get so lucky meeting all these new kinky friends and play partners. Really, we aren’t lucky! We’ve just gone to munches and met people, in real life, who we can talk about the everyday stuff with or have over hanging out on the back patio while teaching a newbie how to use a paddle the correct way. Sometimes it takes breaking out of that comfort zone and just facing your fears… What are you afraid anyway?
When cagedmonkey and I really got into this whole lifestyle and living it everyday, we didn’t have anyone else to really talk to about it, especially not in real life! We had met some good people on Chastity Forums and started reading, commenting and even communicating with some other bloggers. It was so nice to be able to talk about all this stuff with other people. However, hiding behind our blog and them behind theirs or a computer screen left us feeling only half fulfilled. We really wanted to find real life friends to talk to about all this stuff and more. I mean how many friends can you say know the real you, the whole you? Probably not too many! Are you “good friends” with people who don’t even know your real name, out of fear they could out you to other friends or family?
Well in our latest podcast we wanted to talk about how we stepped out of our comfort zone and got out from hiding behind the computer to find some real flesh and blood people to talk to and become friends with. We talk about how it felt going to our first munch and meeting new friends in other situations.
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I did want to make sure I mentioned a few ways to find local get togethers in your area. Of course you could join FetLife and look for events that are posted there, local groups and search for friends. It’s been a really great resource for us but do please be aware that it is a sort of social media platform and sometimes you will find some not so good people floating around!
Another place I recently found but don’t know too much about (I tried to get an interview with the owner) is FindaMunch it seems like a very nice site with lots of locations. I’d assume, if you host a regular local munch you could get yours listed on that site too!
***Bonus: We have a new lovely voice on our podcast – not only do we get our music from bensounds.com we now have a wonderful sexy friend who has recorded our intro audio! Thank you Mistress “Blue Rose.”