So I just want to write that just as important as it is for us as women to get feedback that the boys like what we are doing, they need that same feedback from us. They need to know we are proud of them for being locked for us, for enduring our teasing etc. They also need to know if they are pleasing us with their behavior or sexual acts. How will they know to continue something I’d they don’t know ere loving it?
I find that having a submissive husband or even being dominant to a submissive man is just like parenting. I’m not saying our men are childish (though some sure can be at times) I just mean they respond well to techniques parents use with children. It’s just like you would treat a kid when you “catch them doing something good” to reinforce the behavior. So it’s important to say things like “it really pleases me when…” or “you’re doing such a good job with…” or “I really love how you are handling…” and even “Wow! What a great job doing…..” adding to any of those some hint at a reward is huge too. Saying something like “it really pleases me when you take out the garbage without asking… I might have to unlock you and tease you later!” No, you didn’t just lock yourself in and you don’t have to let him out but the thought that you might is motivation. It’s interesting how it works.
Praising and reassuring our submissives builds their confidence and keeps them pleasing us and striving for more of those compliments and possible rewards. It might be all about us Ladies (or dominants) sexually but it is about both of us emotionally. This is why I say communication is so huge. The feedback, both ways, keeps the relationship going.
Have you praised your locked boy today?
Holy macaroni! What a night! Wooooooo doggies! *giggle*
What a good night tonight with my cagedmonkey. After we got the kids put to bed we hung out, played video games and watched a Dexter on Netflix. Right after the show ended I climbed up on my sweet boy and started kissing him. I really had no other plans than to make out a bit with him before he had to go to work.
Boy, oh, boy! Did that ever turn into some kinda craziness! We were kissing heavier and heavier and groping each other and then cagedmonkey grabbed my big beautiful breasts and started squeezing and massaging them just so perfectly. I sat up while he was doing that, as if I was riding him and felt these tingles all through my chest and stomach and down into my crotch. It wasn’t long before I was up there cumming right in my pants. That opened the flood gates as it was like one right after the other up there. I soaked my panties, my pants, the blanket cagedmonkey was lying under and even got his boxers wet! Pure and utter craziness, I say! I seriously lost count as to how many it was.
I was already on the edge after that and when my lovely, talented boy got up to get ready for work he shoved his face between my legs and ate my pussy to another quick orgasm. I just couldn’t stop myself and while he was getting dressed to go and I masturbated myself to another couple and then just before walking out the door he used his fingers to bring me to two more.
It quite simply turned into an amazing night and I ended up being serviced until I felt absolutely amazing! I’m so incredibly pleased and happy and I feel fantastic! I couldn’t ask for a better equipped boy, he knows exactly how to please his Lady.
As you may have read in an earlier post, My Lady recently had shoulder surgery that has left her with pretty much only one functional arm for the next few weeks. I’ve been waiting on her hand and foot (and toes!) for a couple of days now; it has been rough working so hard for her, but thing are settling into a groove. She is starting to feel better, as well as slowly returning to her “insatiably horny and wet all day every day” status. 🙂
Over the past few days, I have realized that I truly am at peace when I am serving ML. Sexual service is obviously more exciting, however serving her in non-sexual ways also gives me an energy from within. Most importantly, I thrive on her feedback; it was rough going when she was in pain and feeling terrible, but it is getting better as her mood is improving. I live to hear those words “such a good boy” escape those sexy lips.
I have spent most of the past week unlocked, however I have still been denied an orgasm (still cum-less in 2014!). As ML’s physical comfort has allowed, I have been pleasing her with my tongue, hands, and also with my cock. She has mentioned on quite a few occasions that I feel exceptionally large this week. While I’m not the type to figure out exactly why I’m receiving these AWESOME comments – what guy doesn’t want to hear they have a huge cock? – it may be due to the fact that the frequency of penetrative sex has been less leading up to now. All bragging aside, I have somehow managed to hold myself off from cumming during this time. I can’t count how many times I’ve WANTED to shoot my load of cum deep in her wet warm pussy, but so far I’ve been that “good boy” that I strive to be.
What exactly makes some of us sub males so dedicated to our keyholders that we are willing to be SO committed to our chastity and orgasm denial? Why do some men need anti-pullout features on their chastity devices, while others can fuck their KH without going over the edge?
I can’t speak for everyone, but for me it’s that I am fully focused on My Lady’s pleasure. She gets off on the control she has over me, and I get off on her controlling me. I know that she would be extremely disappointed if I were to cum without permission (unless she forced me to, but that’s a different story). For me, it’s about giving My Lady what she desires. And what she desires is a man who will allow himself to be denied indefinitely until she wants to please him, and who will serve her every need until that moment occurs.
She wants a good boy. And I want that to be me. 🙂