chastity

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I used to think that sex before bed was the most amazing thing. Don’t get me wrong, it still is awesome, you make the sweet sweet love, have fantastic orgasms and fall asleep in each other’s arms, right? Well, not exactly! See, in our relationship sex is different, still awesome as hell, but different. Let me describe for you the way it works now, with a husband locked in chastity.

We head to bed and start running hands all over each other, kissing, licking, groping. Getting each other turned on and even more horny. Then, as my hand slides down my husbands chest and stomach, I feel that harness start near his pubic bone and then… that hard steel ring and cage encasing a cock that is trying to burst out. As much as I would love to feel that cock inside me right that second, there is a delay as we try to get his cock out of the cage so I have can it and feel him. The struggle is real people haha! Once he is out of the cage and we do manage to have sex, I am usually the only one who cums… Then we roll over and go to sleep, me satisfied and him laying there frustrated and more horny.  which in itself is a pretty fantastic thing but it’s not like it is in a traditional relationship.

I used to think that having sex and going to bed with my husband was so awesome but what I’ve realized over the past little bit is that not having that connection with him after sex makes me feel lonely and wanting, almost.  Trust me, I’m totally not complaining about having any kind of sex lol we have sex, period, and that is amazing. What I’m getting at is that I have found that morning sex is incredible for me! It really invigorates me and gets me going and starts my day in an amazing way. We wake up, we have super awesome sex and then I get to spend about 45 mins with him before he leaves for work. It just leaves me with such amazing feelings in the morning, and sometimes I’ve left even more horny too!  it’s like getting my morning coffee injection! LoL

Anyway, I just find it interesting, as I get older, how things change. How the way I feel about things changes. I love having any kind of sexual intimacy with my husband and being able to have that continued connection with him. It certainly helps after intense scenes so I don’t have Domme drop and it helps in general to have that connection. 

Do any of you (or your wives/girlfriends) feel that way? Have you noticed things like this too?

Recently I’ve had a few people asking me about the key I wear on a necklace around my neck. They key they are talking about is the key to my husband chastity cage. More specifically it is the key that loosens the security screw we use to keep his cage locked on his junk. 🙂 I have a picture (on the contact page, maybe) that shows the padlock key I used to wear before getting the security screw from Mature Metal. However we realized that having the screw was much more convenient, quieter and less bulky. 

Back when I ordered the security screw option I found out it came with two keys. One we use as an emergency key that hubby keeps on his keyring and it’s tamper evident. That one is the regular size. I asked Mistress MM if it would be possible to cut a key shorter because I didn’t want to have a long metal pendant that would draw attention to itself. The shorter one does that just fine! Anyway, Mistress MM told me that the key could be cut shorter and redrilled so that it was small enough to wear on a necklace. There is a very small fee associated with resizing the key but in my opinion, it’s worth $25. 

My key is cut to one inch total. If I remember right that is about 3/4 of an inch smaller than the normal size of the key. One thing I want to mention is to make sure you get yourself a good rope style chain for the key with a clasp that fits through the hole! It would be a good idea to get the necklace after you get the key, just to make sure it fits. It is still possible to use my key to unscrew the security screw, though it is more difficult than using the regular length key. 

I know that Mature Metal can get a bit more creative and custom about their keys but keep in mind the more creative you want your key, they more expensive it might be due to the handmade nature of it all. If you are interested in shortening your key for your keyholder you just need to let Mistress MM know and it will be done! 🙂 She’s extremely good like that. She even knows what you mean if you mention you want the “key like Lady M wears.” Hehe 🙂

Hope this helps! 

My Lady sprung a little surprise on me while I was at work today by sending me the following email:

What are your thoughts on a “no look, no touch” period?

I’m thinking anytime I unlock you, you will be blindfolded and restrained. You can’t shower uncaged, unless you are blindfolded and I’m with you in there cleaning you…

How can I say no to that?

(Well, technically I can’t say no to anything, really. That’s what our D/s relationship is all about.)

It’s been quite a while since ML and I have done “no look no touch.” In fact, I don’t think we’ve done much of it year, if at all – with all of the job nuttiness and then throwing an interstate move on the pile, there wasn’t much room in our lives for that type of project. And it is a project – whenever I need a shave or when ML wants to use my cock for her pleasure, I need to be tied down and blindfolded. It’s more of an undertaking than it seems.

However, now is a great time to reintroduce it into our routine. Our bed is extremely bondage-friendly, which comes in handy. Also, ML has been wanting to practice her rope-work for a while now – this will give her a chance to “develop her skills,” so to speak.

So how long will it be before I touch, or even SEE my erect penis? Not sure, to be honest; it seems as though ML is looking to go a little longer than usual. Perhaps denying me an orgasm for a year is upping her interest in extended durations for other parts of our chastity/denial play. I always go into this type of thing confident that it won’t affect me that much… and then two or three days in, I’m wishing it was over with. I get the feeling that it will be quite a bit longer than a few days this time around.

There is a new ridiculous hoax floating around on Facebook, claiming something along the lines that you can have a microchip planted into your partners penis and get a cellphone notification that would tell you if he were cheating on you. At first I giggled and was like what a dumb thing to start passing around the internet and then I actually felt sad that there are probably people out there that feel they might have a need for that. If they do feel that way they probably should not be in the current relationship they are in, just sayin’!

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Then I got to thinking – what if there actually was something similar to this that a keyholder could use? That certainly gives new meaning to chastity and /or orgasm control. Do you think you would like the idea of a microchip in the penis to detect chastity or denial or do you prefer the chastity cage? For me, I definitely like the cage. I love how it looks and I love that it is completely a physical reminder that I own that. I get to see it, he gets to see it and feel it. It is so much more than just holding off the orgasm, a chastity cage is gives you the feeling of control and not just the mental part of it. It’s not just about knowing I control orgasms. I love that chastity is so much more than that. I control orgasms, erections, and all sexual pleasure. The cage is such a hot reminder of that.

I even wonder what my husband would think about something like this – I do think that he agrees that the cage is something spectacular that has added such a deepness to our relationship. Even if there was no orgasm control associated with it, I still think that chastity and that sense of control that I have really is what it’s all about. I really think he would agree with that – I’m sure he will comment since he has no clue that I’m even writing this post and will likely have some thoughts when he reads it. lol

I’m interested in your thoughts, too. Do you use a cage for orgasm control or for control in general? Are you just on the honor system? Would you prefer something like a microchip that would alert your keyholder of any time you cheated?

Hello guys and happy August!!! Can you believe we are more than half way through the year?? Cagemonkey has been denied for 7 MONTHS!!! That’s NUTS!!! We are completely NUTS!!! hahaha

So ANYway, CM and I have been throwing around some ideas on how to bring more excitement to monkeyinacage.com. One of those ideas was to start doing a podcast. We hope it will help all of you get to know us better and help US to explain this whole world we live in, better for you. We have enjoyed sharing our journey with all of you for these past few years and we hope to continue sharing with you as we continue exploring!

Bear with us as we try this out and learn to get things posted to the blog! I think I’ve worked out getting it embedded and I will add a link to hopefully allow for downloading our podcasts – in hopes of making them a bit more portable for those who like to listen on their terms!

Without further ado here is our little podcast! (btw someone test it out and please tell me if you can download from that link!)

I’ve had a few people contact me asking where I’ve been. I haven’t been making my normal rounds on the websites, haven’t been commenting as much or anywhere near Twitter. I want to let you all know that I am sick and not feeling well at all right now. I, once again, have drug resistant E Coli which takes a little bit to get rid of. The doctors are checking everything out to see what the cause is (hopefully) and today I had a CT scan done. I won’t know results for a few days and then I have some other testing and procedures to go through.

Anyway, I am on antibiotics now and hopefully I will be feeling a bit more myself shortly. Don’t get into to much trouble without me lol! 

Literal answer to rhetorical question alert!

chas·ti·ty
ˈCHastədē/
noun
the state or practice of refraining sexual intercourse.

As I was putting my cage on after shaving yesterday, I started thinking about exactly what this is that ML and I are doing. It’s easy to call it “chastity” but is it really that?

As you can see from the definition above (thank you, Google), chastity usually involves less (or perhaps even no) sex. Since ML began locking my cock in a cage, we’ve been have more – and BETTER – sex than ever. That’s like the opposite of chastity!

My Lady is in complete control of when and how much sex we have. And keeping my cock locked up all to herself gets her pretty damn horny, so we end up having sex pretty often. The cage doesn’t even stop her from having my cock when she wants it – she will have sex with even even while I’m caged, and she loves every minute of torturing me like that.

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You cannot imagine how frustrating it is to feel her warm wet pussy on my cock, yet I’m still unable to get hard. My cock certainly tries, but always fails. ML has has many orgasms on my caged cock as I throb helplessly against the steel. It often feels like I could cum, but it’s only wishful thinking. I’m left as frustrated as ever, often with a painfully full cage as ML drifts off into blissful post-orgasmic sleep.

So, we will continue to call it “chastity,” even though it’s something different at the heart if it. It’s not about refraining from sex; if anything, it drives us to want it more. For us, it’s about control. ML controls me sexually, not just my orgasms but even my erections. She will have sex with me when she wants, whether she allows me to have a erection or not.

Today, for some odd reason, out of no where I was having a bit of “drop.” I was feeling off and emotional and REALLY missing cagedmonkey while he was at work. I could feel my thoughts race, it felt like a roller coaster. I even caught myself wondering if I should just make him cum and forget this whole denial thing. I missed him so much today that my mind was racing through ways I could feel him… Making him cum is a huge way to feel him and connect with him. It’s been 173 days since he’s had an orgasm… He’s not quite half way there yet.

I don’t really want him to cum and I’m feeling much better this evening but this whole thing isn’t that easy on a wife who happens to be a keyholder to her one and only love. Who she happens to REALLY, REALLY like sex with! Haha I really am living how incredibly horny cagedmonkey is, how badly he wants to cum when he’s being teased and edged. I will say that I don’t feel there is much difference between how horny he gets at 3 or 4 months to how horny he is now… Just sayin’

It might be time to do some extended lock up. Perhaps some No look, No touch? What do you think?

Recently I started working with Mistress Ivey on her new journey at Ivey’s Keys. It’s been quite fun and even a learning experience working with my subs. I am very much enjoying the interaction, the tasks and ask of the people in general.
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So the past couple of weeks haven’t been all that easy. Getting acclimated to living in someone else’s house hasn’t exactly been “smooth.” It’s difficult for me to relax and feel comfortable when I’m not in my own environment. Sex aside, it’s been a difficult transition. It will be better in a couple of weeks when we finally get our apartment.

Focusing on the sex – despite the situation, ML has found ways to keep me sexually frustrated. Whether it’s waking me up with a teasing handjob or having me fuck her with my caged cock until she cums all over me, her teasing has been very effective. And, unlike the apartment situation, it’s only going to get worse as time goes by.

It’s getting close to five months into the year and still no orgasms for me; ML is still determined to have me go cum-less for 2016. I’m not even halfway through the year and I’m already dying for an orgasm. My balls are almost constantly sore and feeling very full. At this point, I really need a good draining – whether or not I get an orgasm with it kinda doesn’t matter. I mean, obviously it does… obviously I’d love a nice hard intense orgasm right about now. After 142 days, who wouldn’t?