chastity device

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You’ve probably already read the post from a few days ago where cagedmonkey mentioned I have him locked in the Steelworxx Revenge. So there is no need to get into all that. The Revenge is quite an interesting device because of the fact that it’s practically a fully enclosed device, keeping cagedmonkey from any sensation on his penis, be it clothing, bedsheets, or human touch, there is just no way to feel any of that through the Steel encasing his cock. 

I think it’s pretty amazing that I get to create this world where my hubby is virtually without his penis. I get to tease him and drive him crazy making him hornier and hornier and his cock feels nothing. Now that he’s locked in the Revenge… He’s going to have to try hard to remember the feeling of my tight wet pussy wrapped around his cock while he struggles against the steel. Even his “rooty” is different in the enclosed device, there really is no where for it to go, no bulging out between the bars. I’d imagine the pressure and aching must feel slightly different but that’s something for the experts and not my assumptions. Just wait until I torture him with sliding that cage into my hot wet pussy and he feels nothing, not even the warmth.

Now, I know he mentioned that we would be taking this round with the Revenge a little slower, kinda like when you get a new cage, we aren’t jumping right into the long term. So tonight, since it’s been pretty close to a week since I locked him in the Revenge, I had him remove the cage to make sure we had no redness or sore spots or anything that showed there were any issue. I did not see anything at all so now I will push him out about 10 days or so. I will remind anyone interested in an enclosed caged (not sure if this is just the case with steel or all enclosed) that there is a smell associated with the immediate removal of the cage, even after only a week, which included daily washing. Not a huge deal, just know you can’t take it out and play with your toy right away like you can with the Jail Bird. It definitely needs a quick wash. 

Tonight was a little rough on CM because even though he was temporarily out of the confines of the cage, I still refused to touch his cock. Just because we are doing inspections every so often certainly doesn’t mean the spirit of not feeling anything for a few weeks isn’t there. I loved hearing the frustration in his choice when he realized I wasn’t going to touch his cock, which immediately went from soft to rock hard within about a minute or so of removing the cage. I do love how it sounds when he’s so incredibly frustrated from the horniness and it’s all because of me. I know he loves it too. And maybe that’s what makes it even more exciting! 🙂

Very recently Cagedmonkey and I have gotten a crap load of questions, lol and while some we answered specifically to those that asked already we thought the majority could be answered in a post in case any of your were interested in this stuff too. We always encourage people to ask questions and love taking the time to answer either privately or publicly so thanks to those who have asked. We appreciate your interaction and look forward to hearing from you again!! 🙂

Q: Do you see a time in your relationship when you’ll stop chastity?

A: Interesting question… NO! haha Cagedmonkey and I have actually talked about this a lot over the years and it’s comforting to both of us, I think, that neither of us want us to quit this or ever be done with the chastity. We have talked about, even as we age and may not be able to do some of the more hardcore things , we will continue and always have the chastity part of it all.

Q: Would you ever cuckold your husband while he is in chastity or is that something you are not into?

A: This is actually something we’ve talked about a bit. As far as the traditional (is it really traditional at all?) way of cuckolding, no, that is not something I would be willing to do. I am not really looking to have actual sex with other men. However, as we wrote in this post about, what we call, Pseudo-Cuckolding the whole idea of it is kinda hot and the little bit of jealousy of flirting with other men is a hot thing but neither of us have a desire for me to have sex with other men. Women on the other hand, that’s another story…

Q: What are your thoughts of ruined orgasm’s? do you do them, like them, hate them?

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Lady M – Oh I LOVE ruined orgasms and, of course, we do them! 🙂 They are really some of my favorite things in tease and denial. I absolutely LOVE when I can get CM right to the point of a ruined orgasm yet NOT give him one. That is a spot where I say I “broke it.” What that means is that I didn’t fully ruin his orgasm but his dick is all confused wondering what the fuck just happened and then I can practically use it as much as I want and he wont cum for a bit until his penis figures out it really didn’t cum! I’m totally smiling writing this and describing it!
CM – Yes, like ML said we do them and I hate them and hate how frustrating they are. I also try very hard not to have them but My Lady is extremely good at forcing them to happen whether I like it or not.

Q: Do you think chastity would work for anyone or does it take a certain relationship dynamic to make it work?

A: I think CM and I both agree on this that it takes a certain kind of person and relationship to actually enjoy chastity play. There has to be the right frame of mind, as we have said, chastity is not a lock it and leave it thing. There is work involved on both sides… unless of course being locked up and forgotten about is your thing. There is a LOT of emotional well being that needs to be considered when getting into chastity. It’s not just a steel (or plastic or resin) cage locked on your cock – there is a shit ton of mindfuckery that HAS to go along with it.

Q: “I just recently found your blog, and was wondering what your experience with the mature metal cage has been. Back in the day, we had a CB2000, but found it difficult to maintain long term chastity due to nighttime erections and swelling. Wondering if you have encountered these issues and how you dealt with it. Thanks.”

A: Mature Metal is really great, no buts about it (and, no, that’s not a paid advertisement, lol). It sounds like the problems you were having weren’t device related; nighttime erections are a pretty normal thing. Sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night and I need to do math in my head to get myself under control!

Swelling could be another issue – it could be normal attempted erections, but it also could be a sign that you need to adjust your cage measurements. If your cage is comfortable, it’s probably just that your cock wants to get hard but it can’t.

Q:  I noticed you have a long list of kinks that I absolutely love and a lot I’m curious about. Do you and your husband have any particular favorites?

A: I think our main kinks are tease, orgasm control, chastity, spanking and bondage… I mean we touch on a lot of different fetishes and kinks but those are probably most often.

Q: How is cagedmonkey enjoying his freedom since you let him cum after 10 months?

A: Oh, I’m sorry, were you under the assumption that I let cagemonkey out of his cage and left him unlocked after he got his long awaited orgasm? HAHAHA NOOOOOOO!!!!!! He was unlocked and I got what I needed, I did allow him to sleep uncaged that night but he was locked back up in the morning just like he is everyday. 🙂

 

Thank you all so much for the questions again! I love when we get a big rush of questions come in from all over the place, it’s so much fun to write about them but also it gets CM and I talking about all this stuff and keeps our communication open! Please, email, Twitter, Fetlife, where ever you contact us, please keep them coming. It’s extremely therapeutic!! 🙂

Today, for some odd reason, out of no where I was having a bit of “drop.” I was feeling off and emotional and REALLY missing cagedmonkey while he was at work. I could feel my thoughts race, it felt like a roller coaster. I even caught myself wondering if I should just make him cum and forget this whole denial thing. I missed him so much today that my mind was racing through ways I could feel him… Making him cum is a huge way to feel him and connect with him. It’s been 173 days since he’s had an orgasm… He’s not quite half way there yet.

I don’t really want him to cum and I’m feeling much better this evening but this whole thing isn’t that easy on a wife who happens to be a keyholder to her one and only love. Who she happens to REALLY, REALLY like sex with! Haha I really am living how incredibly horny cagedmonkey is, how badly he wants to cum when he’s being teased and edged. I will say that I don’t feel there is much difference between how horny he gets at 3 or 4 months to how horny he is now… Just sayin’

It might be time to do some extended lock up. Perhaps some No look, No touch? What do you think?

Our Twitter followers were the first to get the scoop that I went to work uncaged yesterday. Although I have left for work uncaged before, this was almost always because my cock wouldn’t fit in the cage after fucking hot morning sex or teasing from ML. This time was different – this time there was a medical issue involved.

It was one of those “in the worst possible spot” things: I had an irritated hair follicle directly under my balls, pretty much right where the ring of my cage sits. Most of the time, I can deal with not being perfectly comfortable in my cage (case in point: dealing with a cock-crushing erection at two in the morning). This time, it just plain hurt. With the nature of what’s going on at my work right now, I wouldn’t be able to sit and ride it out. I was afraid this would become a bigger problem than it already was.

Thankfully, ML agreed and allowed me to go uncaged for the day. The plan was for me to lock myself later if I felt up to it. Luckily, I ended up having the opportunity to leave work early due to weather concerns, so I didn’t have to spend the day uncaged after all!

I’m very glad that my keyholder is very reasonable when it comes to my physical needs. My “wants” may go unfulfilled, but my needs are always taken care of.

Ok well maybe not signed, though someone did ask! 🙂 haha It was like a flash of light that we had the Jail Bird for sale and then it was sold. A nice gentlemen in Utah purchased the Jail Bird, which I found interesting. Last year at Christmas time we sold our Queens Keep device and it was also a guy in Utah that bought that one – not the same one though! 🙂 Hmmm who’s got all these guys in Utah with locked up cocks?

I want to thank our buyer for a great, smooth transaction. The device was shipped USPS Priority Mail with taking and insurance and he should receive it on Friday. I do hope it turns out to be a great fit and that you enjoy being locked up for a long time! Haha

Sorry to those who missed out! I’ll let you know if we are ever selling any other devices!

Our new Jail Bird with the extra cage ring and bigger diameter has already been ordered and now we wait! As timing has it, it will likely be a nice new gift for our new home in West Virginia.

Wow! I didn’t expect to have such a big response, so quickly, for the new Jail Bird. Since I’ve gotten so many emails and comments requesting the selling information, I wanted to take a second and just post it here publicly to answer everyone at once!
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So, yes, we are selling the new Mature Metal Jail Bird device. It has only been worn/tried on for a couple days. It will be clean and sterilized before it is sent and the selling price will include shipping in the US. This will be just like ordering the device from Mature Metal themselves but without paying for the rushed build time. Mature Metal always guarantees their handmade devices and will always make adjustments* even if you are not the original purchaser.
*Please note: sizing adjustments do require a fee.
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Retail cost:
Jail Bird device – $320
Extra Cage Ring – $80
Double Base Ring (threaded) – $50
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This device’s post is threaded for the security screw however it does NOT come with the screws. You can use either a lock or screws if you already have them. You could also purchase a set of screws and security screw keys* from Mature Metal for $65 + shipping. *Please note: Mistress MM will contact me to confirm that the purchaser has not received screws/keys with the device before they will mail you out a set. If you need a different sized Double Base Ring those run $95 + shipping because the Double Base rings CANNOT be resized.

I am selling this device so that we are able to reorder one with the correct inside diameter for cagedmonkey. That means I’m hoping to get back most of what I spent on it, especially since it’s pratically a brand new device.

I am listing this at $400 currently, if you are interested, please send me an email here. I will accept only Pay Pal for payment and will ship 2-3 day Priority Mail within a day, usually, after payment has cleared – provided we are not in the middle of moving! 🙂

I recently surprised cagedmonkey with a new Mature Metal Jail Bird. I called up and talked to Mistress MM and ordered a different version of the custom device we already have, with a few changes in size as well. I told her all about the surprise I had in mind for cagedmonkey she was extremely helpful in getting the device ordered without him knowing I’d even ordered it.

Way back in 2013 when we ordered our first Jail Bird, we’d ordered the device very similar to the Bird Cage we had been using. We ordered a 2 inch round base ring and a 4 inch long cage that was 1 1/2 inch in diameter. While those measurements worked just fine, after about a month or so we knew exactly what measurements needed some tweaking. That’s when we sent back the device to Mature Metal and William made some adjustments.

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Original Jail Bird BR: 1 7/8" ID: 1 1/2" Length: 3"


When we received the cage back it was all shiny and resized. It now had a 1 & 7/8 inch oval base ring and a 3 inch long cage with the same 1 1/2 inch diameter. That cage has fit perfectly for the past year and a half or so that cagedmonkey has been locked in it. There really is no need for a new cage other than I wanted to try a slightly new look.

When I ordered this new Jail Bird I really liked the idea of adding a ring to the actual cage part as well as making the whole device just a bit more snug. The added ring seems to make CM’s bits slightly less accessible as well as add a neat look to the cage. It still allows for wonderful hygiene though because it’s still a very open style cage. I also ordered him a double base ring with the hopes that it might help add some surface area and hold the cage a little more snug to cagedmonkey’s body.

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New Jail Bird DBR: 1 7/8" ID: 1 3/8" Length: 2 3/4"


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The new cage’s measurements are slightly smaller and tighter than our original but the double base ring is the same 1 7/8″ oval. The cage length is 2 3/4″ and the inside diameter is 1 3/8″. That extra ring on the cage really makes it look like a large difference in size but it’s really not.
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I really do like the look of the new cage when cagedmonkey wears it but alas the new sizing wasn’t exactly a good thing. The new length was probably not an issue at all but the diameter was just a bit too small and cagedmonkey was getting pinched because his skin was sticking out between the bars just enough. There is such a thing as a cage being a little too snug around the shaft. I hear people say all the time how “you really can’t go too short” and I’m not sure I believe that because you really do need a properly fitting device in length and diameter.
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While over all I do love the look of this cage, I want cagedmonkey to be comfortable in the cage he wears for me, or at least most of the time anyway. Granted, the cage can get a bit uncomfortable at times when I make it that way but in everyday wear I want it to be something he can wear all day everyday. It shouldn’t be pinching him or difficult to maneuver or need too much adjusting to use the bathroom. That is something I’ll let cagedmonkey tell you about here.

So what it comes down to is this; we will be selling this new Jail Bird and I will reorder another one exactly the same with the 1 1/2″ inside diameter. If you or anyone you know are looking for a nice Mature Metal device life this and you don’t want to wait on build time, please contact us!

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We are driving back home right now so I thought I’d take a sec to write. Cagedmonkey’s mom’s service was really wonderful. A very long day driving down and being at the funeral home all day and night but still a great time to remember a wonderful woman. We really will miss her. She was such a loving mother and grandma.

Anyway, we had to drive all morning and be at the funeral home in dressy up clothes all day yesterday so I let go of my “no look, no touch” thing slightly. I allowed cagedmonkey to unlock in the morning yesterday and be comfortable and cageless for the day. There certainly was no sexy happenings though with how tired we were, unfortunately.

Now that we will be back home and not traveling for a couple weeks we will get back to the “no look, no touch.” Not that cagedmonkey was all touching himself or even had a hint of a boner but it will still be nice to have him back in his trusty armor! 🙂

In the grand scheme of things 3 weeks doesn’t seem like much but that’s where cagedmonkey is in the 24/7 wearing of his Jail Bird. We usually get here and I’m the one dying to take him out. It seems my stamina is getting a little better, though, today in horny as hell and I really want to rip that thing off of him and ride him raw. Haha 🙂

He’s been begging an awful lot and it’s damn sexy I must say. Really wants out of that cage. In sure it doesn’t help that I’m almost constantly getting him hard whether we are together or not. If we aren’t I send him naughty pics and I just love that he’s been so incredibly drippy lately. I miss him telling me how he gushed precum on the way to work.

Anyway, I’m contemplating taking him out this weekend and giving him a bit of a surprise! Especially since he’s off work all week next week. I know we will find time to have some playtime fun!

Yesterday, cagedmonkey got out of the shower and came out into the living room in his tshirt and underwear. While I think it’s super sexy, I had to point out that he needed to be careful. He happened to be wearing a pair of white microfiber boxers and, well, they hug in just the right places!
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I do love catching a glimpse of his cage like that but we also need to be careful of stuff like that so the kids don’t. It’s awesome seeing him locked up, for me.