7 comments on “Healing the Past with Sexual Role Play

  1. I have spent a lot of time trying to determine what is behind my deep rooted desires to serve my wife and to be in extended chastity. I have some ideas, and I am in agreement that things in our childhood and teen years form us into who we are, especially sexually, throughout our adult lives. An absent (military) father can, I believe, influence boys to want to have women command them.

    • PA, I completely agree, but there are a couple memories from my past that I can remember very young where I enjoyed certain pleasures that “may not” pertain to any kind up upraising. Things such as bondage or denial of orgasms that I can’t seem to fit into the puzzle. Is there a gene or natural human instinct that pertain’s to sexual arousal other than the natural instinct to reproduce?

  2. I have really been searching to what extends to my sexual desire to be controlled and why i loved to cross dress. I agree that some desire comes from childhood activities but i have not been abke to tighten down on them. I’ve enjoyed cross dressing since i was about 6. Sexual bondage since about 10. I enjoyed sexual pain such as spanking, CBT and smacking for about ten years plus and chastity for about two years now. Now that i think Bout it, i can remeber a few times that i refused myself an orgasm when i was about 12 just to keep that sexual arousal feeling foinf for an extended period of time. So maybe chastity and orgasm denial extends way back. Understanding where it came from has been a mystery. The excitment of living it today have been enjoyable.

    • KP,
      What a great comment, thank you. There are so many things we find that touch on stuff from our childhood. I can tell you hubby grew up with a mom that thought he could do nothing wrong, he was not disciplined, he was put on a pedestal (for various reasons) and barely had rules… So, having me control and discipline him etc fits. Me on the other hand, I was overly disciplined, controlled, abused, etc which obviously feeds my own need for control. I’m pretty sure lot of my sexual stuff does come from sexual abuse in my past (wow, I just admitted that to hundreds of followers when only 3 people in my RL know!).

      I don’t think we need to figure out why we like something or need something, I just think having an understanding that there is a reason is good enough. πŸ™‚

      • Admitting things to us is a lot easier then in person. We have a different relationship with our followers on this blog and are mostly anonymous anyway. Plus, many of us are in the same boat and it’s easier to talk about things with likewise people just as it’s easier to talk about sexual kinks without fear of rejection.

        I Agree that for some, it’s not a requirement to know where it comes from. Some may not even care; they just want to do what they enjoy. Understanding “why” for me, is a knowledge drawer I’d like to fill.

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