We really do not get much time for play these days. Now that the kids are older and staying up later, we get very limited time alone, especially when grandma’s living situation changed and she isn’t taking the kids overnight anymore. Last week, hubby had a very rare day off work so I took half a day at work myself so we could get a little playtime in while the kids were in summer camp. I broke down and paid for them to be in half day camp so they would stop calling me at work so much. Lol
Anyway, I came home from work and immediately walked over to hubby and made him give me a kiss to welcome me home. Though, it wasn’t just any kiss… Basically I put my pussy on his face and made him lick it. 🙂 I just love walking over to him, saying nothing and just sitting in his face or at least making my point known that he is to stop what he’s doing and eat my pussy. Once I was properly welcomed home we had a little relax and eat lunch time and then I instructed him to the bedroom. As soon as we got in the bedroom I quickly tied his wrists into some rope cuffs… I do love how fast I’ve gotten at making decent cuffs with the rope. Then I tied his wrists to the top of our poster bed. He was standing there, sexy and exposed and unable to move. Just waiting for whatever it was that I would do to him. I spent a good amount of time using my flogger on him while he stood there. He does such an amazing job taking my flogging and spanking. I also loved making him moan and try to wiggle as I ran my nails all over his body. Lightly scratching down his arms, around to his chest, down his stomach and trailing to his side’s down to his bum and then his thighs. I really do get so wet from the noises he makes. I decided then to make things a little more interesting for him so I used the wand on him while I tickled his asshole and lightly slid the tip of my finger into his tightness. I eventually instructed him to hold the wand with his thighs, between his legs while I flogged him again until his skin was a gorgeous rosy color.
In between flogging cagedmonkey I would reach around to his caged cock and squeeze the base where rooty was so prominent. I just love the reaction I get when I grab it and stroke it behind the cage, feeling his balls get tights and tighter. It turns me on so much seeing and feeling those reactions that are almost completely involuntary. I was so turned on by everything and every sound he was making that my pussy was so incredibly wet. After about an hour of standing there taking what I wanted to give him and my pussy practically dripping down my legs, I untied him and made him lick up the delicious sloppy mess between my legs. Of course I made him take a picture just before so we could share it all with you. 🙂
We’ve written before about how we live a certain lifestyle and it’s not always easy meeting other people who are like minded. I mean you can’t just walk up to someone at church and be like “Hey, are you a kinky fucker, too?” Though that would be kind of funny, it would also be totally inappropriate in that situation. It’s not like people walk around wearing at T-shirt advertising their style of kink like they would their favorite sports team. Being kinky or living an alternative lifestyle, such as having an open Relationship or enjoying others together in your relationship isn’t something you can generally bring up in just any conversation.
So… How CAN you find other people who are into something not so mainstream? There are a few different ways to do this. Recently, cagedmonkey and I were introduced to a website called SwingTowns.com and it’s definitely a place where you can meet real, local people in your area for free, who are into kink and other fetish-type things. It seems like such a wonderful place for kinksters. If you are a Mistress or Master seeking a slave or vice versa, this is the place for you. Their Fetish community is full of open-minded singles, couples and groups. You’ll find men and women looking for erotic BDSM, bondage and fetish play (in addition to the submissive and Domme roles). Not only is it a site to meet other kinky fuckers, they also have a great blog with awesome information-filled articles. The articles cover so many different subjects and if you check it out you’ll notice some pretty popular bloggers who contribute. (Wink, wink) Now, there is always Fetlife, or collarspace, or even the BDSM reddits but one of the best ways is to just get out there and met people at your local munch.
Just today, I was asked how we get so lucky meeting all these new kinky friends and play partners. Really, we aren’t lucky! We’ve just gone to munches and met people, in real life, who we can talk about the everyday stuff with or have over hanging out on the back patio while teaching a newbie how to use a paddle the correct way. Sometimes it takes breaking out of that comfort zone and just facing your fears… What are you afraid anyway?
You’ve probably already read the post from a few days ago where cagedmonkey mentioned I have him locked in the Steelworxx Revenge. So there is no need to get into all that. The Revenge is quite an interesting device because of the fact that it’s practically a fully enclosed device, keeping cagedmonkey from any sensation on his penis, be it clothing, bedsheets, or human touch, there is just no way to feel any of that through the Steel encasing his cock.
I think it’s pretty amazing that I get to create this world where my hubby is virtually without his penis. I get to tease him and drive him crazy making him hornier and hornier and his cock feels nothing. Now that he’s locked in the Revenge… He’s going to have to try hard to remember the feeling of my tight wet pussy wrapped around his cock while he struggles against the steel. Even his “rooty” is different in the enclosed device, there really is no where for it to go, no bulging out between the bars. I’d imagine the pressure and aching must feel slightly different but that’s something for the experts and not my assumptions. Just wait until I torture him with sliding that cage into my hot wet pussy and he feels nothing, not even the warmth.
Now, I know he mentioned that we would be taking this round with the Revenge a little slower, kinda like when you get a new cage, we aren’t jumping right into the long term. So tonight, since it’s been pretty close to a week since I locked him in the Revenge, I had him remove the cage to make sure we had no redness or sore spots or anything that showed there were any issue. I did not see anything at all so now I will push him out about 10 days or so. I will remind anyone interested in an enclosed caged (not sure if this is just the case with steel or all enclosed) that there is a smell associated with the immediate removal of the cage, even after only a week, which included daily washing. Not a huge deal, just know you can’t take it out and play with your toy right away like you can with the Jail Bird. It definitely needs a quick wash.
Tonight was a little rough on CM because even though he was temporarily out of the confines of the cage, I still refused to touch his cock. Just because we are doing inspections every so often certainly doesn’t mean the spirit of not feeling anything for a few weeks isn’t there. I loved hearing the frustration in his choice when he realized I wasn’t going to touch his cock, which immediately went from soft to rock hard within about a minute or so of removing the cage. I do love how it sounds when he’s so incredibly frustrated from the horniness and it’s all because of me. I know he loves it too. And maybe that’s what makes it even more exciting! 🙂
On Social Media today everyone was posting about how it was #NoPantyDay so I decided why not participate and go to with pantiless! How fun and secretly sexy! It wouldn’t have been right wearing anything else but a dress, don’t you agree?
I do wish I would have had a way to get a nice “upskirt” pic for you all but this is what I was able to pull off. I’m sure you’ll enjoy it just the same.
Our wonderful readers were not the only ones to get to enjoy my naked ass today. As I was leaving work, one of my co-workers happened to be having a cigarette in his car, a big gust of wind caught my dress and lifted it to my arm pits haha I scrambled quickly with my arms full of stuff to push my dress down and got in my car. I have no idea what or if my co-worker got a glimpse of my bottom half lol but oh boy that was quite the way to leave work! 🙂
Did anything as exciting happen to you today? How many guys are sans underwear today?
Most of you should know we bought a house recently and moved, and if you don’t, where the hell have you been? 🙂 Anyway, moving and updating the house and painting and everything has been a lot of work. We’ve gotten a lot done but do have some other projects we need to work on this summer. First things first, I REALLY want my microwave installed instead of sitting in a box on my kitchen floor! So, anyway, we moved into the house last week and have been working hard to get unpacked, which is tiring and annoying. We’re just trying to get back into the swing of things while half of what we own is still packed away and we are wading through boxes on a daily basis.
While moving in last week and the week before we met some of our new neighbors! It just so happens our one neighbor right next door is a couple of kinksters, married with kids! It’s been extremely fun getting to know them, needless to say! They are a bit younger than us, she is a pretty kinky young lady and identifies as a switch (with some brattiness!) while her hubby is more on the vanilla side but they are totally getting into learning rope and exploring this whole fun world we live.
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So we also found out that one of our couple friends that we met at the munch, and who we’ve been to a private dungeon party a couple times with, also live in the same subdivision, not too far from us. So it seems we picked the right place to live when we chose this house!
What’s really interesting is the potential with our next door neighbor. Since she’s switchy and her hubby doesn’t want her playing with men, it kinda works perfectly in my desire to play with and Domme a girl. She’s actually a cute little bbw girl too and she’s also a photographer so… There’s just really a lot of potential in both friendship and who knows what else.
Oh! And she’s a great writer so I’m trying to see if she’d like me to set her up a blog hosted through our server on fetblogger. So maybe you guys will be reading her stories soon and perhaps seeing some of her pics!
I used to have this whole thing about wanting to be the one who worked and my hubby would stay home and be the house husband. That has since changed and I’ve become a hell of a lot more realistic about my life. I realized I should be the mom, the one to stay home and be with the kids. That’s what I did for 12 years and I have loved every minute if it. I wouldn’t change it. It was what was supposed to be.
However, let me tell you about a time when I was younger and I thought, the only way I could keep a guy was to be the one who worked and supported us and he got to do whatever he wanted. Staying home, getting sex, etc. I thought, how could I guy ever leave a woman who gives him such freedom? Well when I was young I thought, I’d just keep a guy locked up in my house, all for me, for when I wanted him.
Well yesterday, was an interesting day, I had to work and hubby was off work. Normally on his days off I would be home and we’d play or have sex all day or something but not this time. This time I had a house husband who was working hard, cutting the lawn and completing a “Honey Do” list which included some cock stroking. I kept him nice and horny during all of his sweaty work for me. I was turning myself on quite a bit while I was at work. Just thinking about him at home working hard, doing as I asked if him and then when I got home… We had some lunch and some perfectly wonderful bent over the bed, fucked from behind sex. All because I wanted it and he had to give it to me.
It really was a fun day, tiring for hubby and we didn’t get in much play at night but we did have some good during the day play and he got to cum on my big round ass in the afternoon before the kids got home from school. 🙂
So let me tell you a little story about how awesome my husband is when it comes to me. This story explains all of the reason I know we are the most perfect for each other. The other night we were having some pretty fantastic sex and I decided I wanted to feel my pussy squeeze down hard on CM’s big thick cock while I came. So he knelt there between my legs sliding himself in and out and, fuck, it felt so good. I started to rub my clit to help myself get to climax faster – although CM makes me cum way better. Anyway, I could feel the intensity grow as I got closer and closer to orgasm and all of a sudden CM pulled the pillow out from under my head as I hit that spot and my muscles tightened and I clenched everything. To some that might have been rude, but in that moment, he knew well enough to take the pillow away so I didn’t cause myself unnecessary pain. It was an incredibly awesome moment between us, he knows me so well and even in that moment of my orgasm he thought of me and how to make it even better for me.
That’s what I love the most about having an attentive husband. He knows exactly how to please me and make me feel fantastic sexually and even emotionally. Do I think it’s the cage and denial that make him that way? No, because all of this has come after I let him cum a few times in the past few days. He’s like that because he loves me and genuinely cares about my pleasure.
Anyway, I know this isn’t a super long post but it’s one of those things I think people should know. Those little things you do in your relationship really do make her feel thought of, feel special, feel cared for and that her pleasure is important.
I was asked this really great question recently so I thought I would take a minute to write here about it. I’m sure some of our readers who are in control would appreciate it. Then again, some of you in the submissive role may like to know this stuff too.
“…doesn’t it make you feel bad sometimes when you deny your hubby for so so long? Do you ever feel guilty?”
There actually was a time, when we first started this whole chastity and longer term denial thing, that I would describe my feelings as guilt. Now that we are almost 4 years into this there are zero feelings of guilt. There doesn’t need to be any. 4 years ago my hubby asked me to take control of his sexual pleasure. He wanted me to be the one to decide if, when and how he would orgasm. I gladly accepted that role and took control over that pleasure for him. So why would I feel guilty about giving him something he wanted in the first place? That’s something us dominant types can forget sometimes… but when someone completely offers themselves to us we need to not feel guilty about accepting the responsibility.
Cagedmonkey naturally craves and needs to be controlled and I naturally crave and need to be in control. It makes us both feel fulfilled and content in our relationship and in our life. It fits us so well to accept these roles.
So, in short, no I don’t feel bad or guilty about denying him orgasm or even keeping him locked in that steel cage and even controlling him to the point of when he gets a full erection. I love knowing that he is THAT controlled, down to something even HE can’t control! I love knowing he has a pretty constant reminder of me and the fact that I control him and he sexual organs and pleasure. It’s mine to enjoy, he gave me that. He offered me that gift and it’s one of the best things and shows such deep love and respect and, more importantly, trust. It makes me feel great, not guilty!
I know we haven’t posted in a bit and we’ve been a little quiet on Twitter the last couple days, but it’s ok! We are alive and well and enjoying a nice vacation back home in New York! We decided to take a few days to head back to see family since it’s been about a year and a half since we’ve been to the city to see anyone.
I appreciate the text messages, DM’s and emails asking if we are ok! It is so wonderful to be cared about by so many! It’s crazy that pretty much 99% of you we do not really know, especially in real life but you still care when we seemingly aren’t around for a few days! I promise you we are good! We stopped and spent a couple days with some kinky friends (in a vanilla way, due to the kids) and then headed off to NY. We will be here for a couple days and then head back to our kinky friends house for a few days again before heading home next weekend. Once we get back things will be crazy and lots of changes happening but all good changes!
I did realize after we left that I forgot the Mic to do a podcast with our kinky friends but it’s all good, maybe next time… They will be out to see us in May, I believe. 🙂
Feel free to messages or write us anytime, we do loving hearing from you all!
I recently got, yet another, email about locking up a guy. I get them pretty often but just about every time I get one, I need to respond with something along the lines of you can’t just lock up a guys cock and throw away the key. I do want to mention, I know there could be a guy or two out there that does actually want to be locked up, have the key thrown away and their dick completely unused and forgotten about. As a matter of fact, I have such a boy, who’s key I hold, that enjoys the fact that there is nothing he can do or say to get his key back or get his cock unlocked… ever. There is really no use for his puny little cock. That is something that is few and far between and even in his circumstance, I STILL keep him mentally teased and reminded of his predicament every so often.
Male chastity with a spouse or partner, however, is usually not about not having sex or not having to “deal” with your guy once he’s locked up. If anything, it might be more work when you’ve got someone under lock and key. I’ve written about this plenty of times and I’ve even done a podcast on it. When you get a guy to give up control of his most intimate parts, he’s also giving you an incredible amount of trust. He’s trusting that you won’t lock up his dick and forget about it. He needs to know that you enjoy having him locked up as much as he enjoys being locked up for you. He may have a constant physical reminder of who owns his cock but there definitely needs to be some consistent mental reminders. Especially those amazing mindfucks that cause him to press and struggle against the cage, aching to be released.
I really can’t stress enough about how important it is to give attention to the one you control. Your words, alone, can have a huge impact on how their time in chastity will be. When I say you need to give attention, I’m not necessarily talking about constant physical attention. I do think there needs to be some of that as well but, more than that, the mental side of things will certainly keep your guy from getting lonely. One of the most important things to remember, when locking up a guy, is that it’s going to be work. You do not want them getting lonely and feeling sexually forgotten about. I’m pretty sure I even have a blog post here with lots of ideas of how to keep your guy mentally mindfucked and well teased while locked up. Look around a bit.