Most of you should know we bought a house recently and moved, and if you don’t, where the hell have you been? 🙂 Anyway, moving and updating the house and painting and everything has been a lot of work. We’ve gotten a lot done but do have some other projects we need to work on this summer. First things first, I REALLY want my microwave installed instead of sitting in a box on my kitchen floor! So, anyway, we moved into the house last week and have been working hard to get unpacked, which is tiring and annoying. We’re just trying to get back into the swing of things while half of what we own is still packed away and we are wading through boxes on a daily basis.
While moving in last week and the week before we met some of our new neighbors! It just so happens our one neighbor right next door is a couple of kinksters, married with kids! It’s been extremely fun getting to know them, needless to say! They are a bit younger than us, she is a pretty kinky young lady and identifies as a switch (with some brattiness!) while her hubby is more on the vanilla side but they are totally getting into learning rope and exploring this whole fun world we live.
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So we also found out that one of our couple friends that we met at the munch, and who we’ve been to a private dungeon party a couple times with, also live in the same subdivision, not too far from us. So it seems we picked the right place to live when we chose this house!
What’s really interesting is the potential with our next door neighbor. Since she’s switchy and her hubby doesn’t want her playing with men, it kinda works perfectly in my desire to play with and Domme a girl. She’s actually a cute little bbw girl too and she’s also a photographer so… There’s just really a lot of potential in both friendship and who knows what else.
Oh! And she’s a great writer so I’m trying to see if she’d like me to set her up a blog hosted through our server on fetblogger. So maybe you guys will be reading her stories soon and perhaps seeing some of her pics!
I used to have this whole thing about wanting to be the one who worked and my hubby would stay home and be the house husband. That has since changed and I’ve become a hell of a lot more realistic about my life. I realized I should be the mom, the one to stay home and be with the kids. That’s what I did for 12 years and I have loved every minute if it. I wouldn’t change it. It was what was supposed to be.
However, let me tell you about a time when I was younger and I thought, the only way I could keep a guy was to be the one who worked and supported us and he got to do whatever he wanted. Staying home, getting sex, etc. I thought, how could I guy ever leave a woman who gives him such freedom? Well when I was young I thought, I’d just keep a guy locked up in my house, all for me, for when I wanted him.
Well yesterday, was an interesting day, I had to work and hubby was off work. Normally on his days off I would be home and we’d play or have sex all day or something but not this time. This time I had a house husband who was working hard, cutting the lawn and completing a “Honey Do” list which included some cock stroking. I kept him nice and horny during all of his sweaty work for me. I was turning myself on quite a bit while I was at work. Just thinking about him at home working hard, doing as I asked if him and then when I got home… We had some lunch and some perfectly wonderful bent over the bed, fucked from behind sex. All because I wanted it and he had to give it to me.
It really was a fun day, tiring for hubby and we didn’t get in much play at night but we did have some good during the day play and he got to cum on my big round ass in the afternoon before the kids got home from school. 🙂
On a recent post, Collaredmichael commented the following:
Do you find the perverse desire not to [cum] -in order to continue your streak of days without? It is something I seem to be experiencing – I want to cum but I don’t want to cum.
Short answer: I used to get this feeling, but not so much anymore.
I think, at one time, I felt the desire to keep pushing my denial farther and farther. Thinking about it now, it wasn’t so much of a desire to keep pushing it for a deeper intensity; it was more of an attempt to keep the sexual connection between ML and me. Since things have gotten much more healthier between ML and me in a sexual sense, I feel no desire to force it along anymore.
That’s not to say the feeling went away completely after things got better between us. When we attempted the full year of orgasm denial, of course I wanted to keep going without cumming. But that was the point of the exercise: just how long can we go? I think ML and I found out the answer to that.
At this point, I want my orgasms to be fully controlled by ML. That means not trying to “help my denial along” by resisting an orgasm and pushing my denial further; I’m in a state of mind now where I really do want to cum, but whether I do or not depends on what she wants. It wasn’t easy for me to get to this place mentally, but the work (and play) that My Lady and I have done has helped us get here.
I read a 3 year old post “The Ring’s the Thing”… and you mentioned that you switched back to the regular ring, because the anatomical one started to feel uncomfortable. I would love to read an update regarding this matter, please. I’m thinking of buying the Revenge, but i can’t decide which ring to choose.
Click here for the post that St is referring to.
It kinda surprised me when I found the anatomical ring to be less comfortable than the standard round one for the Revenge. I had heard good things about the anatomical ring from others, and also it’s designed specifically for comfort. So you’d think it would be the best choice, but it wasn’t for me.
But that doesn’t mean that it isn’t the best choice for everyone.
Stay with me…
Just like I wrote in this post about trying out the double ring, the comfort of the base ring is really up to the wearer. Some guys will find the anatomical ring to be a better fit than the standard one; some guys may feel better in an oval ring, while others stick with the round design. You really need to try it to see if it works for you. Just make sure you don’t end up forcing it just because someone else says it’s “the best.”
On the other hand, I do recommend getting the integrated lock option that is available on all of the Steelworxx designs!
So let me tell you a little story about how awesome my husband is when it comes to me. This story explains all of the reason I know we are the most perfect for each other. The other night we were having some pretty fantastic sex and I decided I wanted to feel my pussy squeeze down hard on CM’s big thick cock while I came. So he knelt there between my legs sliding himself in and out and, fuck, it felt so good. I started to rub my clit to help myself get to climax faster – although CM makes me cum way better. Anyway, I could feel the intensity grow as I got closer and closer to orgasm and all of a sudden CM pulled the pillow out from under my head as I hit that spot and my muscles tightened and I clenched everything. To some that might have been rude, but in that moment, he knew well enough to take the pillow away so I didn’t cause myself unnecessary pain. It was an incredibly awesome moment between us, he knows me so well and even in that moment of my orgasm he thought of me and how to make it even better for me.
That’s what I love the most about having an attentive husband. He knows exactly how to please me and make me feel fantastic sexually and even emotionally. Do I think it’s the cage and denial that make him that way? No, because all of this has come after I let him cum a few times in the past few days. He’s like that because he loves me and genuinely cares about my pleasure.
Anyway, I know this isn’t a super long post but it’s one of those things I think people should know. Those little things you do in your relationship really do make her feel thought of, feel special, feel cared for and that her pleasure is important.