All posts for the month July, 2014

***Update to my previous post: I just went upstairs, took Pearl, lubed it up and woke cagedmonkey with it pressing against his tight, uninviting asshole. He moaned so incredibly loud as I pushed passed his clenched, tight ass. He definitely was not ready for it! My pussy was literally dripping down my thighs because I was enjoying the amount of control I had over him. I went to the toy box and got my new strapless strap on, I figured it was a great time to try it out. I slid it up into my sloppy wet pussy and lubed up the other end and positioned myself behind cagedmonkey. Laying on his stomach, arms restrained above his head and his cage pressing into the mattress I swirled my hips into him… or so I tried… the strapless strap on does NOT stay in hands-free. Not one single bit. I held it with my hand and gave him a good pegging. He was moaning so loud and good and his reactions just caused my pussy to get wetter and hornier! Finally I needed to cum so I climbed up and straddled hubby’s ass and used his little sexy round butt to rub my pussy. I came all over his ass, covering him in my pussy juices.

I wasn’t quite done yet so I grabbed my wand, laid next to him on the bed and let the wand take me to orgasm heaven. Once I came with the wand I wanted it again and again but it made me want to feel him while using the wand. That’s just not possible while locked in a steel cage so I released one of his hands from the restraints and he slid two fingers inside made and pushed me, along with the wand, to an outstanding whole body, wiggling, shaking, writhing and ultimately squirting on the bed, screaming orgasm. My throat hurts!

What an amazing morning!

A bit after I left him laying in the juices I got this text:


Looking for ideas to spice up your play?

So much fun! I wonder what else I’ll get up to today since its only 11am! 🙂

Ok so maybe not one single day but I thought I’d show the world that not every single minute of our lives is consumed by sex and playtime. To be honest it’s really only a small portion but because those are the parts we write about most, it may seem like our days revolve around sex, teasing and denying. Really my days look a bit like this:
My couch is usually covered in whatever I’m working on that day. I’m menu planning, couponing, managing the house, doing laundry, cooking, dishes, running the kids here or there, etc. I’m not saying cagedmonkey doesn’t help with that but he will look to me if he’s not sure what needs to be done when. I’m constantly writing lists and sometimes have lists for my lists. I even have a list off sexual stuff in interested in doing, doing again or trying. Lol it keeps me organized and keeps my life less chaotic. I keep a schedule of what is happening most days (doctor appts, lessons) on our Google calendar so that both of us get the notification. I also use the calendar to remind hubby when something needs to be done. It’s a great tool. 🙂


Looking for ideas to spice things up?

Today really isn’t an errand filled day, laundry is mostly done and the kids are playing outside with the neighbors. So that gives me time during my menu planning and shopping list making to go upstairs and give cagedmonkey a little attention. This morning I have him restrained to the bed because, while he’s sleeping, I plan to surprise violate him… I’m going to quietly go up the stairs and slide the lubricated dildo in his ass which is how he will wake up. Normally he’s waking up to my wet pussy practically dripping in his face and he’ll immediately lick it up… Today I’m feeling he needs to feel Dominated, taken, used – however you want to put it. I know that he’s craving a real bondage session where he is taken advantage of and I plan to show him a small bit of that today inbetween the normal things I do all day.

I know we’re going to have a fun day. 🙂

I’ve been having such great fun teasing my locked up man the past few days. Once the kids got to bed on Friday, cagedmonkey and I had about an hour and a half to get in some play time. I’ll admit, after going to the gym at Physical therapy that day I was pretty beat but how could I resist my gorgeous man sitting on the couch, naked and caged.

I instructed cagedmonkey to go take off his caged and give my toy a wash because I might just give him a blow job. Off he went to take care of my instructions. We decided to watch a show on tv and then while watching I sat with hubby legs over mine. I teased him for almost an hour before he had to go to work. I stroked his cock almost that entire time switching from stroking fast, to slow, stroking just his head, and many other ways so that I was sure not to push him over the edge that I was holding him on. Did he get that blow job, nope. 🙂

Yesterday evening was no different as far as teasing goes. I had him unlock the cage so that he was ready for me whenever I wanted to tease and torment him. Once we got the kids to bed we took a lovely shower. Soaped me all up and washed me. It’s always so sensual taking a shower with him.
I just love feeling his hands all over my soapy slippery skin. Rubbing me down from neck to toe. When it was his turn to get washed I soaped up his hard cock and stroked it. He was moaning and writhing around at my hand. So super slippery when I stroke him in the shower. That and, damn he’s so sexy all wet and soapy! I really just love to wash his gorgeous little ass.
Let’s just say his gorgeous little ass got some play while in the shower too. I bent him forward, held his shoulder and let him feel my fingers in his ass. He moaned so loud and I could tell he was loving it.

After our shower he spent a lovely amount of time pleasuring my pussy, over and over and over again. I loved having him lick me from my bottom to my clit, right up between my lips. Tasting every inch of my pussy. Then it was time for him to go to work again.

Here we are at Sunday and cagedmonkey has been napping this evening… It’s about time to wake him up and tease the living shit out of him. 🙂

Last night, I performed one of my most favorite duties for My Lady – I acted as her “on demand” pleasure tool. It is so much fun when she does this, because she shows just how much in control she is of my sexuality when she uses it whenever she wants to as much as she wants to.

ML unlocked me earlier in the day, so I had a feeling she was going to want to play with her toy and tease my cock at some point during the night. We sat with each other watching TV after the kids went to bed, and she turns to me and says, ‘Take your cock out now and stroke it.” Yes ma’am! I immediately began masturbating for My Lady, and I was soon wiggling around on the couch and moaning as it started to feel really good. I had to slow down quite a few times in order not to cum, but I was under orders to not stop unless ML said I could. She forced me to string myself along, moaning and commenting on how wet she was getting as I continued to stroke.

She finally allowed me to stop, telling me to tuck my cock back into my underwear. I was to keep on my toes, though, as she quickly explained, “When I get up, I want your glasses off and your cock out, so I can use either one to get off when I want to.”

Oh my fucking God, I almost came in my pants right there.

How hot is that? She’s warning me that she’s so horny that she is going to be using me more during the night, and I better get myself ready for her. It would be my responsibility to please her whevenever and however she wants. And the sense of foreboding was amazing… she said when, not if.

Being the good boy that I am, I followed My Lady’s instructions. I made sure I was always aware of how she was sitting, preparing for her to stand up and make her way over. This kept me turned on and hard for the entire night, waiting for when it would happen. And then there she was, rising to her feet and moving quickly towards me. I just barely had enough time to remove my glasses before she climbed up on the couch and shoved her wet pussy right into my face. She smeared her pussy juices all over my face, making me a sloppy wet mess. Then she grabbed the back of my head and pulled me into her hard; I felt her pussy spasm around my tongue as she came quickly. She repeated this another 3 times, and also sat down on my cock once… facing the TV, no less, truly making me feel like an object to her.

After the last time she finished fucking my face with her pussy, she sat back down and spread her legs wide. I was mesmerized by her beautiful pussy, I couldn’t take my eyes off it. ML pulled me out of my haze by saying, “Bring that cock over here now and fuck me with it.”

Damn, her choice of words was driving me nuts. Bring that cock over here and fuck me with it. I really was just a plaything to her. I obeyed her immediately, kneeling at the foot of the couch and sliding my cock into her pussy as she slouched slightly. It felt fucking amazing to be in her pussy again, but the position made it more difficult for me to cum. In the past, it might have been almost impossible to achieve orgasm the way I was kneeling; after a full week of being teased and denied, all it did was give me the ability to hold back juuuuuuust enough.

ML began rubbing her clit as I slowly thrusted into her, being careful not to get too carried away and lose it. As she rubbed faster, I could feel her pussy squeezing my cock. She looked into my eyes as her orgasm hit her, and her pussy nearly squeezed the cum right out of me. I struggled to keep myself from cumming as her pussy almost crushed my shaft with its spasms of pleasure. ML began to come down from her orgasm, but there she was rubbing her clit again. She wasn’t done with me yet. It was as if she was in a frenzy; cumming on my cock once wasn’t enough. I used all of my effort to hold back. Then I felt her pussy pulsing again; she cried out loud as she came on my cock once again. Her hips bucked towards mine; I pushed further inside her, giving her my full length, and her body shook all over as her orgasm brought her to even bigger heights. Somehow, I was able to get through all of this amazing sexiness – ML’s legs spread, needing to be fucked, demanding to be fucked, her body shaking from her orgasm, moaning loudly, and gawd her fucking pussy felt soooooooo fucking good I swear – without cumming myself.

Finished pleasing herself with her toy, ML motioned for me to get up and move to the other couch. She then told me that I better get soft in a hurry, because I would have to be back in the cage before I left for work. Not more than ten minutes after My Lady’s warm tight pussy was wrapped around the shaft of my cock was it locked back in the Jailbird once again. And tonight, at work, I’m as horny as I’ve been in quite a while. My cock is still super sensitive; each movement I make causes my cock to wiggle the slightest bit against the cage, reminding me that the unyielding steel is no substitute for the soft wetness of ML’s pussy.

However, I also sit here feeling very satisfied. Not satisfied in the orgasmic sense, that privilige is My Lady’s alone until the chooses otherwise. No, I am satisfied in the way I was able to perform for My Lady. I truly loved being her dick on demand tonight, and I can’t wait until I get the chance again to do so!

The current rhythm of chastity that My Lady and I have been using – in and out, whenever she desires – seems to be more intense than an extended lockup period. This way, I’m much more exposed to ML’s teasing, as it may come at any time whatsoever. I’m very glad that My Lady can trust me enough to have me unlocked when and for how long she wants… but I’ll admit it makes things a little tougher to know that I very well could jerk off, but I’m not allowed.

Yesterday I spent the day unlocked and constantly under threat of ML’s teasing touch. My cock was being teased and edged all day long, whenever ML was able to sneak away long enough from my kids trying to critically injure themselves. I was extremely horny by the time the kids’ bedtime came about, and ML and I went to bed shortly after.

After putting on a movie (to cover the sound, perhaps?), My Lady began toying with my cock, making sure to keep me aroused. After edging me four or five times, it was ML’s turn to have her rightful orgasm. She used her wand to give herself a body-shaking orgasm, and I joined in by using two fingers deep in her pussy, making her cum so hard she had to fight her hardest to stop herself from screaming and waking the kids. My favorite!

It was then her turn to torture me with my own desire. ML climbed up on me and straddled my cock, riding me slow enough to avoid making me cum. That ended up being not too fast at all – with her tits in my face and her warm wet pussy wrapped around my shaft, I felt ready to cum almost instantly. And when she spun around and faced the other way, the sight of that beautiful ass bouncing up and down almost drove me to orgasm even when she stayed still!

My Lady slid off of my cock and moved up towards my head. She clamped my arms next to my body with her legs and planted her pussy right on top of my face. She then fucked my face with her pussy, teasing and stroking my cock the entire time. I moaned loudly into her pussy as she pushed me to edge after edge. Adjusting her hips, she then pushed her asshole onto my face, forcing her tight hole down onto my tongue, fucking her ass with it. She spread her cheeks wide and she pushed down harder, grunting as my tongue pushed farther into her ass.

As I used my tongue to fuck her ass, she began to stroke my cock again. She edged me quickly, stroking me hard and fast and letting go quickly. Each time, my body nearly leapt off the bed, held down only by the weight of her ass on my face. She stroked me, and then she pushed me right to the edge and stopped.

I could feel myself teetering, hanging on the edge of orgasm. I tried to hold back, I didn’t want it to be ruined. But the whole situation was just too fucking hot – ML tease torturing my cock, edging me as she smothered my face and force fucked her ass with my tongue.

I couldn’t hold it. As my tongue pushed into her ass once again, I could feel the cum creep up the inside of my cock and leak out in a pathetic attempt at orgasm. I felt two or three drips of cum ooze out of my cock and onto my stomach. It was truly a ruined orgasm – it must have been a full three to five seconds between when ML stopped touching my cock and the cum dribbled out, and I got absolutely NO sexual relief from it! My Lady rode my face fit another minute or two, giggling at her handiwork as I moaned in frustration under her.

It was a very frustrating day for me in all – kept on edge for virtually the entire day, only to be slowly dragged over the edge with no pleasure granted to me whatsoever. However, I know how much my frustration pleases My Lady, so I can imagine how much fun she had creating the frustration. There’s always a positive to my sexual suffering.

I really am giggling wondering what you are all thinking after a title like that. Something like, “what could they possibly be up to… handlebars!?!?” Lol you’ll have to read to find out! 🙂

Actually I’m posting this because it’s real life, it’s what actually happens while living the kinky life. We can’t stress enough how much of a regular suburban family are.

Our weekend began last night so I unlocked cagedmonkey to play a bit, mainly because I’ve been missing some naughty, naked time. Sunday night’s are my Food Network shows so while we watched 2 hours of cooking shows I was teasing him. I basically made him stay hard the entire time but not the way you think. I had decided that I would only stroke him when he was soft and as soon as he got hard I stopped touching. Each time he would get soft I would stroke him again. He was so turned on that stroking him soft ended up edging him while soft. He was so close to cumming even before his cock was hard. It was so fun for me to have a hold of his cock, teasing him.

Toward the end of Cut Throat Kitchen he was getting very over stimulated which is when he started begging me to give him a break. I guess after two hours he deserved it, huh? Haha he got his little break to have a snack and soon after we went up to bed… that’s when I allowed him to feel my pussy. I made him fuck me and I came on his cock while he was denied. We slept together naked which was awesome!

That brings us to today where I spent a good portion of the day stroking him and edging him over and over. I just love feeling his body practically melt against me while I’m quickly sneaking an edge in the kitchen while the kids play outside. Which brings me to my point, the kids were playing outside, riding bikes and pushing baby dolls in a stroller. Riding up and down our street, while I sat on the porch reading a book enjoying the sun and breeze. Every once in awhile I’d sneak in the house and edge hubby and then walk away, back outside to watch the kids.

Well that ended up getting cut short when our 6yo son was going too fast on his bike, turned his handlebars too much and crashed. I ran to meet him and he was so upset and crying. He smashed his face on the pavement and cut up his hand. This time when I headed in the house it was to wash up cuts and scrapes and bandage some wounds. Yeah, that will kill the mood real quick haha. He’s actually a very tough kid and he’s fine. It seemed much worse than it was. 🙂

Anyway, that put the brakes on the sneaky kinky play. I decided we would head out for dinner and do Moe’s Monday. We love Moe’s and $5 burritos, can you beat it? So after we ate we came home, got the kids showered and put them to bed… now the real play time begins…

I’m sure there will be a lovely post about that tomorrow! 🙂

cagedmonkey: Your good boy is going to see if he can get back to sleep…. If not,  gonna eat and get dressed, might tiny nap

Lady M: Ok darling boy

cm: Biiiiiiig smile 🙂

Lady M: I love knowing I can leave you with yourself and the instructions and you won’t take advantage of my trust

cm: I’m glad that you can trust me in situations like  this, that bondage isnt necessary…. Instead it’s a tool for you to use when you want to tease and/or frustrate me

Lady M: oh how I love to tease and frustrate you my sweet boy

cm: I always thought it  would be so  hot  to  be so desperate  to cum that I couldnt be trusted in a  situation like this….. Now I realize that I wont ever get that bad off, but that’s a good thing. Being this devoted and  committed  to you is better 😉 Wanting you to have control and not wanting to let you  down  by taking it from u  is better  🙂

Lady M: You’re an amazing subby hubby and I love that you want to submit to my desires… even your orgasms.

“What are you looking for when you do that?”

She said it with a breathy, trembling voice that can only be spoken by a woman in the moments between one orgasm and another. She didn’t get a chance to explain exactly what she meant by the question, as my tongue swirled over her clit and pushed her farther towards her next climax. I continued to gaze up at her from between her thighs as she came again, her pussy quivering under my lips and gushing wetness all over my chin.

I’ve talked in the past about how much I love to watch My Lady have an orgasm. Lately, I’ve started to watch ML more intently as she cums… so much so that ML might have thought something strange was going on, hence her mid-cunnilingus question. I answered (afterwards, of course… you don’t stop licking pussy to answer a question when your woman has her legs wrapped around your head and is humping your face like a dog humps your best friend’s leg) that I just love the way she looks when she is cumming. She is so beautiful, I swear. This look of pure pleasure and complete bliss comes across her face; she gets this tiny smile before her mouth drops open and she begins to moan. She closes her eyes and her eyebrows furrow, as if the pleasure is almost too much to bear. And her hands pull me towards her, as if to say there is nothing else that can make the moment more perfect other than being closer to me.

I love to watch her at the moment when her orgasm starts to get extremely intense. The past two nights, after licking her pussy for a while, ML and I have “cooperated” to give her very strong and very long orgasms – she rubs her clit while I finger her deeply with two fingers, my fingertips end up rubbing the inner wall against her fingers; in essence, we both rub her clit from opposite ends until she cums like a mad woman. Looking at her face when the orgasm begins to hit a new level and take on a life of its own is simply magical; I can see in her eyes when it begins to run away from her. She looks at me with surprise and concern, with just a tiny hint of fear, perhaps? It’s amazing. I know just when to say, “it’s okay, I’m right here baby… go as high as you want to.” That usually pushes her further as she knows she can truly let loose and be safe with me. The aftermath is wonderful, too – the shellshocked look on her face, somewhat unaware of what exactly just happened to her… just tonight, I had to point out to her that she was still rubbing her clit minutes after she had cummed herself out, as if her hand were on masturbation autopilot. That’s pretty hot, in my opinion.

So that’s what I’m looking for when My Lady has an orgasm – the moment where she loses herself and turns herself over completely to the pleasure that I am providing for her. It proves to both ML and myself how well I perform my subby duties for her. Because that is my ultimate goal – to submit to her sexually and give her anything and everything she could ever want or need.


[The following is a He Said, She Said featuring, one of my favorite bloggers, Tom Allen. Please take time (after you read my blog! Haha) to visit Tom’s blog. He’s a very experienced man with plenty to say on sexual intimacy and relationships, as well as some of the kinky stuff. Thanks Tom for taking time to write with me! ]

Lady M: Every so often, on my favorite Male Chastity forums, a specific subject comes up. Those guys that are relatively new to chastity and have managed to get their gf, wife or partner into it, run into a road block. It goes a little something like this: A guy wants his woman to take control, he finally gets his otherwise vanilla girl to agree to chastity & gives her the key. He then starts to freak out because he can’t get a hold of his cock for 3 days and asks for the key back. When his girl refuses, because she’s supposed to be in control he gets whiny, nasty, sullen, or even belligerent. She gives in, unlocks him and probably even let’s him cum. Then she feels bad, he feels bad, he apologizes, and the cycle may even start all over again with another attempt at lock up.

Surprisingly enough this is a pretty common issue that comes up early on. A lot of times
on the forums the response is “you asked for this” or “you’re locked up now, you have to deal with it and do what she says.” While ultimately that is the goal, chastity has a learning curve and not all guys are perfectly submissive and not all women are Dominant to the bone.

Tom Allen: Orgasm control/denial is a really odd kink. For most guys, the kink is really about the control, rather than the orgasm itself. Sexual pleasure is a very powerful force, and most OD kinksters have the fantasy of having the control of that pleasure taken out of their hands, so to speak.

When men are aroused, their judgment is sometimes clouded by the sexy-horny-aroused feelings that are churning away, and they will paradoxically masturbate furiously to the fantasy of a stern mistress who will not allow them to have an orgasm. In real life, however, most men are married or partnered with regular women who don’t understand their desire to be controlled. A chastity device should make this easier, right? Just lock it up and go about your business.

Ironically, though, the device actually makes it more difficult for most guys. Men wearing a device, especially if they are new at it, have a constant reminder that they are not allowed to touch themselves, not allowed to wank, and not allowed an orgasm. The device needs constant adjustment, and even a brief tumescence results in what often feels like the firm grip of a loving hand, sending more signals of arousal into their primitive brains.

The problems come when they begin to overload on the arousal. In the way that a cup of coffee is a nice start to the day, but five cups leave you jittery and snappish, a few days of arousal gives you a nice glow, but by the end of the week, you’re irritable from not being able to calm down. This is where the fantasy of a strict Domme runs smack into the wall of a real life relationship: In the fantasy, you’re always feeling submissive, or if you’re not, then your Domme just gives you a few smacks on your ass with the riding crop to change your attitude. In real life, your partner is pretty tired of your whining, complaining, pouting, or bitching, and is ready to give you back the key for good.

Lady M: I hear all too often, how other Keyholders are angry or upset or need advice on how to handle their guys when they get like this. They feel confused because these guys just asked them to take control of their dick and now they are being whiny, crabby and sometimes flat out mean. It can be very stressful on a woman to be a Keyholder, especially when she isn’t particularly dominant. When their guys get like that most feel like, “what the hell am I doing this for, this isn’t worth it” or “why am I putting up with this, this isn’t fun or a turn on.” I’m assuming there are plenty of emotions running through a guys head too, but I’m sure you can speak to that better than I can, Tom. After all you have the locked up cock, not me. 🙂

Tom Allen: Most guys simply are not prepared for the roller-coaster of arousal and frustration that they experience when they are first denied, and some do not handle it well at all. Instead of being submissive or appreciative, they become irritated and clingy, and develop a need for constant attention.

To be fair, though, many chastity newbs have rarely or never, gone for more than a couple of days without an orgasm, and are completely at a loss as to how to handle the constant arousal. In addition, the arousal triggers hormones, which in turn affect their emotions. While it’s a sweeping generalization to say that men don’t handle their feelings well, it may be correct to say that they don’t know how to handle the constantly changing emotions that have suddenly been dumped into their bodies.

Some guys learn to deal with it. Unfortunately, some don’t, and they unintentionally lash out at their partner for doing exactly what they were asked to do in the first place.

Lady M: There are a few ways a more vanilla woman can handle the situation. Sometimes it is as simple as telling them to suck it up… if the Keyholder is strong enough to deal with the whiny behavior. Perhaps she wants to punish him for that behavior and spank him etc. Honestly, though, not all women are overly dominant and aren’t into correcting behavior like that. Most women are dealing with the everyday, cleaning the house, working, taking care of kids and already dealing with their kids behavior and correcting them. At least I know I am being a stay at home mom! It’s not easy adding to that but in the end we do benefit once it falls into place.

Tom Allen: The trope in the chastity world is that once the guy is locked up, he immediately “has to do whatever she says” if he is going to get any kind of relief or release. In reality, most of us are living normal lives, working, mowing the lawn, going to school plays, cleaning the gutters, paying bills, and doing all of that within the context of a relationship. If your partner doesn’t normally “correct” your attitude or behavior with a spanking (or whatever), then even if she suddenly switched from June Cleaver to Mistress Cruella, chances are that you’re still not going to suddenly switch off your crankiness.

And let me take a moment to mention that the Mistress Cruella trope is a typically male-driven fantasy, anyhow. Most women when they take a dominant role that’s of their own choosing (as opposed to play-acting for a partner) tend to demand attention and obedience from a loving and respectful servant; they do not typically think in terms of harsh treatment and punishment. The men who are imagining their partners in such a role are already setting themselves up for disappointment.

Lady M: Leaving the keys out of it is one way. You can do this by giving them to a friend, a fellow Keyholder or store it in another location, etc. There are also a number of dice games, card games and other games that decide the length of lock up… though doing something like that ultimately removes some control that a Keyholder is supposed to have. Most guys want their woman to control when, where and for how long he has his cock locked up in a cage as well as when and how he will orgasm. This definitely isn’t the way I handle things because I need to be in complete control. I guess that makes me a control freak hehe. I will say we did try to go by the “set date” thing and I just felt bad when I would unlock early because I wanted to… that’s when I realized I AM in control and I can change the rules anytime I want.

Tom Allen: I have mixed feelings on this. Mrs. Edge and I have always agreed that she should have 100% control, so we never had a point system, dice games, XX number of days, etc., because all of those things removed or mitigated her control. That said, Mrs. Edge, herself, discovered that she liked having 100% of the control, so what we did worked for us.

I do understand that some women don’t care about the control, or would prefer not to have to deal with a partner that is whining or complaining. Using a random number, like a dart toss or a dice roll removes some of the responsibility, so she can tell her partner “Hey, don’t be mad at me, you rolled a double 6, remember?”

An aside: Mrs. Edge often left her key at work, but that was so she, herself, wouldn’t be tempted to use it. Sometimes she set a time period in her own mind (I was never told how long it would be), and she found it easier to leave her key inaccessible so she wouldn’t have to break her own promise to herself. Women are weird.

Lady M: A woman can also handle it in another way that isn’t usually brought up because it seems to be a more vanilla, not so dominant way of doing things.  Sometimes, giving a chaste guy more attention (especially in the beginning) helps, even praising while teasing. Saying things like “You’re doing so good handling my teasing” or “Only  a few more days to go, I’m really proud of you.”

Tom Allen: I don’t think that this is just a vanilla approach. In fact, since I never knew how long she expected me to hold out for, I found it helpful for her to suggest things like “You’re doing really well, you can hold out another week for me, can’t you? Come on, just one more week?” With that approach, she used to keep me going for months at a time.

Lady M: Although I am super lucky that I don’t have to deal with these situations too often, as I have a pretty obedient subby hubby. He understands he’s given up control… but nothing’s perfect and it does happen in even the best situations. I tend to deal with the crabbies in a mix of these ways and can do the hardass “too bad, deal with it” thing as well as the “awww poor baby” thing and it seems to get us through well enough. I like to think I’m pretty strong and stubborn and my dominance is built in deep.

Tom Allen: People, and their relationships, are so variable that there probably isn’t one thing that will work better, or even consistently. I’ve always cautioned men who are new to chastity devices to approach things slowly, and to give themselves time to adjust to wearing a device; it can often take weeks before your body adapts to 24/7 wear. I guess that I should also caution them that it may take quite some time to adapt to the emotional fluctuations that they will likely experience.

My suggestion to women who find themselves in this situation is to not believe your partner if he asks for a lengthy period of lock up, unless he has been working himself up to it for weeks or months. And if you already are holding your partner’s key, and he reacts negatively, try not to react out of anger. Instead, try to understand that he has not developed the coping skills to handle long periods of denial, and that he will need your help in learning to see the changes he’s going through. Ask him if he’s sure that he wants the key back, or if he can wait one more day. Just a day, and then you’ll check in with him again. Some men will take the key, and then feel embarrassed later at their lack of resolve. Others will probably take the key once, and then the next time remember how they felt, and try to hold off for a little longer. And some will manage to calm themselves down once they realize that they can, if they needed, have you remove the device.

I know that this sounds like a lot of work on the part of the (probably reluctant) keyholder. It probably will be, at first, but the payoff is that once your partner realizes just how much work you were willing to do in order to make him happy, he will be willing to return the effort to show his appreciation. Once he learns how to cope, that is

Yesterday was a very long day. My Lady and I were both very tired after not sleeping too well the night before, and running around doing stuff for the entire day. It was nice to just sit down and the end of the day and watch TV while ML teased my cock some.

Yeah, she seems to never stop with that. 🙂 We sat for a little while after the kids went to bed, and she idly stroked my cock, bringing me to the edge a couple of times. I was wriggling around and moaning, humping up to meet her hand a little bit. Soon, it was time for bed.

We snuggled up together, and she began to play with me some more. We kissed slow and deep, and it began to feel nice and romantic. She pulled away from a kiss and looked right into my eyes and said, “Make love to me and cum in my pussy right now.”

“Are you sure?” I stupidly asked.

“Yes, do it.”

“Really?” I asked again.

“Just get up here, be a good boy, and do as you’re told,” she said with a smile. Even when she’s being romantic, she is dominant and sexy. 🙂

So we made sweet, wonderful love together, and it felt wonderful. It felt even more wonderful to cum inside My Lady, too. My body was near exhausted from all of the road trip craziness, so the orgasm wasn’t as body crushing/mind blowing as it probably could have been if I were well rested, but I still felt shivers and chills run through my body during my orgasm; it was still more intense than any orgasm I’d had before we started chastity.

And so now, as I lay in bed this morning with my cage applied just moments ago, we are back to day one. There hasn’t been any serious talk of a new Maybe Day yet, but ML has floated the idea of waiting until our anniversary in January… which just happens to be seven months from now, the exact amount of denial time she was aiming for before this road trip. Coincidence? Or did ML’s devious brain plan this all along? 🙂

Eh, I don’t care. I got to cum in her pussy last night. That’s good enough for me. 😉