All posts for the month January, 2014

OMFG! Cagedmonkey was unlocked for our anniversary so we hid the JailBird in the back of a drawer no one ever goes in. Sure enough, out walks our 8yo daughter with the steel cock cage in her hand asking, “Mommy, What’s this? It looks like a metal sock!”

Holy crap! Hahaha so freaking funny… I think my hubby and I both about wanted to die! I just told her, “yup, it sure does look like a sock!” And daddy quickly says “it’s a piece to something for the plumbing” haha not totally untrue… just that it goes to HIS plumbing.

Oh man that was freakin hilarious! That’ll teach us to put our toys away when we’re not using them! 😀

I can’t believe that it has been 11 years since we got married. 11 years since we made that commitment to each other and to God. How can I even begin to put into words what being married to you feels like? How do I describe how you make me feel?

Our anniversary is a time to remember the good times, reflect on the bad and a time to look ahead to our dreams together. Do you remember when we were first dating? Remember spending every moment possible with each other and spending every other moment thinking about each other? Do you remember talking on the phone for hours and hours about anything and everything? Do you remember smiling constantly thinking about one other and anticipating the next time we saw each other? Do you remember laughing so hard? Do you remember the joy of being in love and knowing you were loved back just as much? Do you remember the thrill of it all? Do you feel how all of these things have come back, after so many years, with the introduction of Male Chastity in our marriage? It is a blessing to fall in love but to fall in love with my best friend is so rare and beyond expectations.

I Love you for so many reasons, I Love you for opening my eyes and showing me my self-worth. I Love you for being my strength when I am weak, I Love you for being my rock through hard times and I Love you for the caring person that you are.

I love that we get excited about the same little things. The simple things – a holiday, watching an episode of our favorite tv show, a gloss of wine, tossing each other mini marshmallows, going for a walk, sharing desserts, laughing till we cry. I love that glowing look you get in your eyes right before you tell me you love me. I love that you ask me how I am feeling—for no reason. Just because you want to make sure I’m doing okay.

My words can’t possibly express what my heart feels so deeply. You love me just the way God created me, with every scar and imperfection. You see past my outward flaws into the depths of my heart and you love me just the same. Just one look from you and I know everything is going to be ok.
Our lives are busy and our days are full, but somehow you always manage to make me feel like the center of your world. Every day, in a thousand ways, you tell me how much you love me and though I often take it for granted, I couldn’t imagine life without your sweet service, gestures and affection:

…”I love you,” whispered in my ear each morning when you get in from work,

…washing dishes and laundry in the evening,

…curling up to you after the kids are in bed and listening to your voice as we talk about anything and everything,

…rubbing my feet just to help me relax,

…watching the kids shriek with delight when you run around the house with them on your back,

…kisses planted on my cheek in the kitchen,

…witnessing the births of our children, and rejoicing over the blessings that God has entrusted into our care,

…coming home with my favorite coffee,

…forgetting and forgiving all the times I’m grumpy, whiny, or emotional,

…giving 110% at work all night and coming home to lovingly greet your wife and patiently listen to the excited children who have a hundred and one things they want to tell you as soon as you step inside the door,

…even though you work an odd schedule, you always shovel the driveway and take out the garbage and help with chores around the house because you’re a true gentleman.

…praying with and for me,

…long talks involving our deep, mutual interests: homeschooling, politics, sports, and economics, sex and fantasies

…how you always ask, “Can I bring breakfast home?” exactly when I’m feeling overwhelmed and way behind on everything,

…how you send me text messages every night from work asking how my day’s going and and never forgetting to write: “I Love you!”

…how you lean back, pat your stomach after dinner and say, “Thanks for the good food, baby,” even if it was one of my experiments gone wrong,

…I love how I fit perfectly inside your embrace when you wrap your arms around me and say, “Let’s just hug for a few minutes,”

…the interest you take in this little blogging hobby of mine and how you happily take the time to read and edit my posts even though you could be doing so many other things,

…the way you put your family first, the way you mean what you say and say what you mean, the way you have rarely ever raised your voice at me in anger, the way you make us feel safe, secure, cherished, and treasured.

We are so alike, and so different, in all the right ways. You are my best friend, and I am so blessed that God chose you to be my husband. And that you feel the same way. We feel equally blessed—and I love that. I love us. I love our life together. I love you.

The way you love me, the way you have come into my life, I wish that this journey never ends till I die. Thanks for making this day special in my life. Happy Anniversary, my love you are my soul mate and I was incomplete without you.


To celebrate our anniversary this weekend, My Lady and I are taking a trip to a local casino for some gambling & drinking fun. She even set us up with a babysitter for the day so we can go and enjoy ourselves without the kids in tow. What a wonderful anniversary gift for BOTH of us!

Until, of course, I open my big mouth.

You see, part of our agreement is that I tell ML about any and all fantasies or ideas that I get that involve our sex life. ML has been struggling with the decision on whether or not to let me cum on our anniversary – she REALLY wants me to fill her up with a nice hot load of cum, but she also REALLY wants to push me further. She couldn’t decide. That’s when my kinky, creative brain kicked in and came up with an idea that she seems to like a helluva lot more than I probably will.

Here’s my idea – we are going to find the roulette table in the casino and choose one spin to dictate a number. That number will determine how many extra days will be added to my current stint of orgasm denial. Thanks to the zero and double zero spaces, I actually have a 1/19 (~5%) chance to cum that night. However, I also risk the possibility of having to go another thirty six days without an orgasm. Considering I am already approaching three weeks without an orgasm, the longest time since we’ve started our chastity lifestyle without cumming, adding another month-plus on the back end is going to be torture. I know what I’m rooting for. What My Lady is hoping for is a mystery to me…

Wish me luck!

If you’ve been reading our blog awhile you know that this weekend is our wedding anniversary. Cagedmonkey and I met over 14 years ago playing a game online. We met in person on January 18th, 2000 and we’re married 3 years later on the same date.

Well each year that we celebrate our anniversary I like to take a peek at the traditional wedding anniversary gifts and see if I can manage to do something to fit it. Like last year the traditional gift is something made from tin. Since we don’t have lots of money, I have to be creative when it comes to these things. I took a piece of tin foil, shaped it into a heart and gave it to cagedmonkey for our anniversary. 🙂


This year was no different, yesterday I was looking to see what the traditional 11th wedding anniversary gift was. I found out the most ironic thing and also got that "God is damn good!" feeling when I saw that the gift is STEEL!

Isn't that the most awesome thing at the current point of our relationship? Plus it's a bonus that I just ordered the new custom Steelworxx Revenge chastity device. It's just so fitting for an 11th anniversary! :)~

We wanted to write a post about cuckolding because a lot of assumptions are that couples who engage in male chastity are almost always into cuckoldry. This is actually not the case. While it seems that traditional cuckolding is more popular these days in the world of kink is not a necessity of couples who practice male chastity. It’s definitely not something we get into… in the traditional sense – which I’ll explain in a moment. Being a cuckoldress or “HotWife,” in my opinion, takes some emotional sacrifice. I’m not the person who can have sex with someone without some emotional connection. I’m also not into sharing my toys, but that’s another story.

So what exactly is cuckolding?
I got this text from The Daily Beast and I feel like it describes it pretty well.

Cuckoldry is defined as a wife’s infidelity. Chaucer and Shakespeare characterized it as the ultimate shame. So perhaps it’s no surprise that today it’s developed into a fairly popular fetish. The Internet is rife with husbands enthusiastically soliciting other men—often larger, hotter, sexier men than themselves—to have sex with their wives while they watch.

“The high point of cuckolding is when your wife says she wants the other guy all the time and never wants you.”

This isn’t like swinging, and it’s not a threesome. Cuckolded men (aka “cucks”) only observe their wives’ infidelities, they don’t participate. And that’s why they find it a turn-on: They’re left out, looking on as the woman they love climaxes with a better man than them. It’s a form of psychological sadomasochism. Some people get turned on by whips, chains, and physical pain. Cucks get aroused by mental anguish.

Cuckolding is rapidly emerging as the alt-sex fetish of choice for American intellectuals. Just check out the online forums like, where letter-perfect postings celebrate cuckoldry as a cerebral pursuit, transcending ordinary voyeurism and S&M as a dangerous game involving jealousy, misery, gratitude, shame, sharing, sublimation, lust, and trust.

Now, I’d mentioned that we aren’t into cuckolding in the traditional sense and that’s because I feel like this type of thing, being as psychological as it is, can come in many different forms. Our “pseudo-cuckolding” is more of a humiliation/jealousy thing in regards to the husband. Let me tell you a little about what the fetish is for us. And maybe this isn’t cuckolding at all but, whatever, did I ever say I was an expert? 🙂

So, for us, the thing that gets my hubby the most is knowing, in very great detail (reading/pics/video), about another having what he is aching to have. In this case an erection, being able to touch himself and of course an orgasm. Think about that guy friend of yours who was sleeping with every girl he could and telling you all about his encounters when you couldn’t even get a date with your own hand.

It’s one thing to talk about another man getting those things but what really drives this fetish home is having a “boy-friend” willing to brag like crazy to cagedmonkey all about getting hard, even morning wood, stroking himself and of course squirting that hot load of cum wherever he wants!

This is where we’ve made things interesting. I’ve made “friends” with a boy who is just a young horny little thing and loves to stroke himself multiple times a day. He also loves to talk and brag about that fact, so he works perfectly into my little plan of jealousy. What brings the humiliation and pseudo-cuckoldry into it is the fact that I make cagedmonkey email this particular boy-friend with erotic photos of me and he has to ask this guy to enjoy the pictures of his wife and to stroke his cock and cum from them. He then has to email and thank him for doing so. In return the boy-friend will then email him back to brag all about what it felt like to have an erection while looking at me, to stroke while imagining cumming on my big beautiful tits and then to explode cum from his cock in response. Even sending pictures of his erect penis, hand mid-stroke and end result. Videos of those things happening are also fantastic ways to frustrate my locked up man.

These online (and sometimes text message) encounters can be very frustrating and, at the same time, arousing to cagedmonkey. There is also great potential in making things much worse for him if there was ever to be a speakerphone conversation!

Could you imagine if we ever met up with this boy-friend in person and he pulled his nice hard cock out in front of us, stroked it and came? It just makes me giggle thinking about it. 🙂

There are many ways to make a fantasy or fetish work for you… even if you aren’t into it in the traditional sense. Sometimes you just need to think out of the box and keep your fantasies alive and kickin’. Then again some fantasies are better left in the mind and worked in words. Whatever makes you an your partner happy is what you should be doing!


Just a short note to say that I placed an order to Steelworxx for the Revenge. We want a second device with less access so this one looks good for us.

He is based in Germany but his website says turn around time is 4 weeks… hopefully the device is done within the 4 weeks and then shipping doesn’t take too long!

So I ordered it on Saturday and got an email that the order was sent & received by the system. Dietmar (the owner) then contacted me by email today (usually within one business day) once he got the order and agreed that he can make our custom device. He then sent me an invoice for either a bank transfer or PayPal payment. I sent ours through PayPal. It was pretty simple, when sending the money I just chose EUR so he was paid in Euros.

The Revenge was actually cheaper, including shipping, than the Mature Metal Jail Bird. I just hope the quality is the same or better.

Well, I’ll keep you posted once we get the device! 🙂 Should be very interesting!

I may have had shoulder surgery but that’s not exactly stopping me from A. Cumming or B. My WLM/Dominating. I will say that cagedmonkey is doing a fantastic job picking up my slack and doing the things I can’t. It started off rough and he didn’t think he could do it but I think he relaxed a bit and found that things don’t have to be perfect or exactly my way. When I ask that things get done, I just want them done. He’s been great about taking care of the kids and getting them to their activities. He’s been cooking most of the meals and even helps me bathe and get dressed. Like I said, he’s basically being my Super subby hubby! 🙂 I couldn’t be more proud of him, pleased with his service, his dedication and how hard he is working! Love this guy!

With all that said, I did mention that it sure isn’t stopping me from getting my orgasms and certainly isn’t getting him any. He had a little “free” time last week but has been back in his jail Bird and his next unlocking won’t be until January 18th. It’s not a definite orgasm day for him but I might give him a chance to cum at least. 😉

Today has been quite the subby day for him. He’s begging to do anything I ask of him. He is craving my direction and awaiting my orders. Aside from his chores, he was required to wear the njoy for a few hours today as well as service me right when I ask. I went upstairs to put away some clothes and had to call him up to help… he asked what I needed help with and I simply said “my pussy needs to be licked.” He immediately got on his knees and made me cum twice – and, to praise him, he even dealt with our daughters homeschool questions while doing it! 🙂 Awesome!

Is that service or what?

Tonight we have some celebrating to do in the midst of a very Dom/sub kinda day. We will be having some drinks tonight and having a while lot of kinky fun! 🙂

One of my most favorite ways to please My Lady is by worshipping her pussy, especially with my mouth. I take great pride in my pussy-licking abilities, and I am very happy that I am able to give ML an orgasm by using just my mouth. Fingers and toys can enhance the experience, but nothing beats flicking My Lady’s clit with my tongue and making her cum.

Tonight was a rather passionate pussy-licking night. We have been somewhat hesitant to allow her body to really let loose after her surgery, for fear that the muscle tension may cause her pain. But tonight, I thought to myself, “Fuck it, I need to eat that wet horny pussy… it’s been too damn long!”

I love the way ML reacts to oral sex. She absolutely loves it when I “make out” with her pussy, kissing it as I would the lips on her face. She moans loudly when I rub my face all in her juices. Tonight, she was very vocal, which turned me on SOOOOO much. Of the numerous things she cried out as I ate her pussy, both sensical and non-sensical, here are a few gems:

“I love your fucking tongue on my pussy.”

“Ooooh yes, you eat that pussy like a good boy.”

“Yeah, suck my clit into your mouth, baby.”

“It’s like I’m fucking your face… RRRRRGH!”

“Fucking A, that tongue!”

I was in heaven, I would have had a huge smile on my face had it not been stuffed in her dripping wet pussy. And she tasted WONDERFUL tonight. I think she missed it a little bit, too!

Next weekend is our wedding anniversary and I wanted to get us a new toy to play with. I know you all have read in the past about how my obsession with cagedmonkey’s ass has grown. It’s not at all about pegging him that gets me, it’s the way his butt looks, the shape, the feel, and even the springy bounce when I spank him lovingly. I just love how his sexy little ass cheek fits right in my hand so perfectly. So I decided to go for it and I ordered a small njoy Pure Plug butt plug for cagedmonkey. I was so excited when it was delivered yesterday. It’s a cute, tiny little thing but very efficient and effective!

According to their site: ” Equally fun for hot bedroom play or to wear all day for some naughty secret stimulation, njoy’s Pure Plugs truly shine where the sun don’t! The Pure Plugs combine a large head for that delicious stretch of penetration, with a tapered stem for easy retention and long-term comfort. The weighty steel adds a lovely sense of fullness and presence to remind you just how sensitive you really are ‘back there’…”

I fully agree with everything written there. The description couldn’t be anymore spot on! I really had some issues with butt plugs because of what I always imagined or saw them used for and I’m not really into those things. I wanted something that I could use once in awhile for an overall pleasurable experience for cagedmonkey. It seems that this little plug is perfect and does the job well. Seeing is I got a message from cagedmonkey after I’d made him try it out for about an hour or so last night. I had him wear the plug while he got some teasing and while he pleasured me a few times.

He said he definitely feels that it was in but his asshole doesn’t hurt like the other plug we’ve used. He says the plug made him have the twitchy leftover sensitive feelings inside like when we used the other but that his actual asshole isn’t sore. He says it’s a very good thing so I’m excited that this is so small yet so effective, like I said. I’m glad that he can gently be reminded of me all night now even when he’s not wearing the plug. 🙂 I’m sure he can comment more on that.

The whole idea for me wasn’t to use a butt plug as punishment, to cause discomfort or pain or even to assert my Dominance. I’ve read and seen so many times where a Mistress will use huge butt plugs for those reasons and, honestly, that just grossed me out. There can be so much more to using one, so much pleasure. I love that the njoy is perfectly made and weighted so that once inserted it puts the right amount of pressure on the prostate. Last night while working on my orgasms, cagedmonkey just started pouring precum almost as if I was milking him! It really was a beautiful thing.

So far I really like this plug. At first I wasn’t into the steel thing but then I thought about what we went through with the chastity device and decided to just go for it! It looks like we will have lots of things to try out and ways to experiment with our new njoy Pure Plug. It should be loads of fun!

A gentlemen contacted us to ask some questions about our WLM & chastity and I thought I’d share incase others had similar questions.

“Is it just an at home lifestyle? Did is happen right away or did it build to a FLM?”
Our WLM is an everyday, all day thing… our relationship has always been one where I took care of everything – financially, phone calls, Dr appts, anything with the kids, etc. We do make big decisions together, where to live, buying a car and that kind of thing. Usually I have the final say in most things though.

“Is it D/s?”
Just so you know wlm & D/s don’t need to go together but yes part of our relationship is D/s. Our sexual relationship is fully D/s and it will only trickle into daily life if we talked about it specifically where my Dominance will be an entire day thing. Hope that makes sense.

“Did chastity come first? and did it contribute to this decision?”
Chastity most definitely didn’t come first. We’ve been flr since we met – I’m a control freak hehe. We had gotten to a bad place in our relationship, we worked hard to repair it and in the repairing made a promise to be honest and share every fantasy. Hubby brought up the chastity thing and, at first, I wasn’t into it. Part of our promise was to be open minded about fantasies so I started to research and found, after about 4 months, that I really loved the idea and that’s how the whole chastity thing began. 

“How did you get it to work?….. We tried it before and it only lasted a month. It seemed rushed and not natural”
Some people are not naturally dominant so to have a wlm they do need to work at it, take it slow, step by step. Once we realized what our relationship was and that chastity was to be a part of it we created an agreement. That’s been a huge help in getting things to go smoother and “work.” It’s still a work in progress and probably always will be. We will continue to go over our agreement to change things. We have added things, adjusted things and taken things out. It’s not a perfect science, there is no one way to do things… it’s what works for a particular couple and no two relationships will look the same.

Thanks for your questions and please feel free to email and ask anything you like. Most things are not too personal and we love the interaction.

How to hear from you!