All posts for the month November, 2013

One of the most important aspects of wearing a chastity device for an extended period of time is daily maintenance. For the sake of both comfort and safety, it’s important to do your “daily chores” and take care of your cage as well as its prized contents.

First, it’s very important to keep your cage clean. The easiest way to accomplish this task is to wash your cage after removing it, however this may not be an option for some guys whose keyholder keeps them locked in a device 24/7… like me, for example. In my case, I find that a good rinse in the shower once a day is sufficient, but I try to give it a good soap-and-water wash at least every other day. Men who are using a more enclosed style of device may require more frequent soap washes.

Just as important as washing is drying your cage. At first, I simply towel-dried out of the shower, but I found there were some spots that were beginning to rust from retained water. Seeing as though the Birdcage I wear is chrome-plated steel, I didn’t worry too much about the rust… however, I didn’t want mold to grow. Using a hair dryer on low/cool setting seems to work better than a towel.

The next step in daily maintenance is applying proper lubrication. Lubing up is one of the most important things you will do involving your cage on a daily basis. When you forget to do it, you will realize it. And you most likely will not forget again for quite a while. Lubrication is important because you want things to be able to move around freely down there without any chafing or pinching. With a proper snug-fitting cage, there is high potential for skin irritations from normal behaviors such as sitting, walking, or attempted erections. Lubrication helps things to move around a little easier. My Lady loves to tease me and watch her cock try to grow inside the cage and press against the bars, straining against the unyielding steel. Without lubing up, this would end up being a lot more uncomfortable than it already is.

I find that more lube is better than less. I began using Q-tips to apply the lube under and around the bars of my Birdcage, until I realized that my finger fits well in the spaces between the steel. I may be forced to use the Q-tips when ML decides to start using a more enclosed device on me.

Using the correct type of lube is also vital. Water-based lubricants are best in my opinion, because they can be used with pretty much any type of device; silicone-based or petroleum-based lubes shouldn’t be used with either silicone or plastic devices because they can degrade the material. Not only is the type of lube critical, but also the brand that you buy can contribute to the quality of your “lubricatedness.” I have found that name brand products work best, as they should; Astroglide is my personal favorite. Store brand lubes can be just as good, but beware – not all store brand products are created equal! I just recently found that. although the Rite-Aid brand of personal lubricant works just fine for me, the Equate brand (available at Walmart) gets very sticky and “goobery” when it dries. Just because one store brand doesn’t work for you doesn’t mean another won’t also. Don’t be afraid to try a few different types out. If all else fails, spring for the good stuff. It’ll be worth it.

At first, I thought that fitting all of these duties into my routine would be a hassle. But honestly, I really enjoy performing my “daily maintenance” tasks. I feel that taking good care of my cage is a way to show my devotion to my keyholder and to show my gratitude that she has valued me enough to lock me up to be hers and hers alone to control. It is my way of saying “thank you.”


When cagedmonkey and I got into this lifestyle we knew right away it was perfect for us. After a bit we realized the perfect way to solidify the lifestyle and make sure we remembered our roles was to get a tattoo. It is something we both wanted so call it a commitment tattoo or a chastity tattoo, whatever, it is a symbol of our life together with me keeping him locked 24/7 in his chastity device.

Since our marriage is a mostly WLM, cm deferred to me to choose what, where and when he would get his tattoo. Since it was my tattoo I contacted our tattoo artist and gave him my ideas and he designed a fantastic padlock design with etching-like drawings on it. One of my favorite spots on hubby are his hips so it was only natural that I’d have him get it tattooed there.

I’m sharing the picture here because I’m pretty proud of it and it’s extremely sexy. I will also be getting another tattoo just as soon as I design a matching key.

Welcome to Monkey in a Cage, our little corner of the internet where we give you insight on our adventures in enforced male chastity!

When My Lady and I first decided to try out this lifestyle, we found that there was a lot of info available on the internet. The problem was that not a lot of sources were, shall we say, credible. Sure, there were blogs explaining the details of the lifestyle – almost all from the viewpoint of the male – but they just seemed too “edgy.” My wife and I had trouble believing they were serious. “Are there any NORMAL people who live this lifestyle?” we asked on more than one occasion.

This blog hopes to answer that question with a resounding YES!

Here you will find our thoughts and experiences that come from living the lifestyle of enforced male chastity. Not only will you find thoughts and posts on subjects from my (male/caged) point of view, but also from My Lady’s (female/keyholder) point of view. Yes, women actually have interesting things to say on this subject, too! Some of the things we post will be extremely hot and sexy; some of our posts definitely WILL NOT be. But everything you read here will be 100% honest. We are not porn stars and we are not actors. We are REAL PEOPLE. This is a place where you can discover exactly what living a full time lifestyle of male chastity means.

We love answering questions and crave feedback, so please feel free to comment on our posts and/or reach out to us via our “Contact Us” page. And please enjoy following along as we walk down this exciting road!